Long distance can be a really hard thing to adjust to, especially in the beginning. I have been in a long distance relationship for about a year now, so I am here to share some of my tips and tricks with you to help.
- Communication
I know it may sound cheesy or oversaid, but this is a skill that every relationship needs. It is especially required for a long distance relationship. With technology so widespread today, this skill is so easily provided for us. One of the best ways to communicate with your partner is to schedule the times you can call or FaceTime each week. Based on your class times and social outings, your schedules may not line up, so it is important to set a specific time that works for both of you to call.
- Send little surprises
Don’t worry, you don’t have to go all out with this one. But a nice little note or something that reminded you of them, in your partner’s mailbox could really brighten up their day. A sweatshirt or some form of clothing that smells like your partner can also be a comforting thing to have. Just douse their favorite sweater in your perfume/cologne, and it will be like you are there with them.
- Good Morning and Goodnight
“Good morning beautiful”, “Goodmorning love”, “Goodnight baby”. We all love feeling loved, especially by our special someone. These little comments are essential in a long distance relationship where we don’t get to sleep next to our person. It’s even more important when it has been a difficult day, or you know your partner has had a hard day. Even if you are upset with each other, or having troubles, be sure to never go to sleep angry with each other. If you’re busy or out at a party, just be sure to tell them you love them and hope they sleep well.
- Thinking of you
Throughout your day, be sure to tell them the things you saw or did that reminded you of them. If they love golden retrievers and you saw a cute puppy, tell them about it. If you see a couple holding hands who reminds you of you and your partner, tell them. It may seem like a small thing, but I can promise you it will make their day.
- Have a piece of them with you.
Pictures. Stuffed animals. Sweatshirts. Whatever it is that reminds you of them, have it with you in your new space. It can be very comforting to know that even though they may be miles away, they are still with you where you are now.
It can be really difficult and scary being so far from the person you love. Just remember you are both strong and as long as you communicate to each other what you need to make the relationship work, it will be okay.