For some reason, the world has morphed heartbreak into the romantic equivalent to someone crying into their pillow at 2:00am because they miss someone who didn’t love them as much as they wanted them to.
How shallow the world can be continues to shock me.
I firmly believe that no one will be able to have a stable relationship with a significant other without first having a stable relationship with the rest of the people in their life. The media wants us to think it’s all about the cliché stereotypes which couples embody, but it always overlooks the real relationships in life. People are constantly on the prowl for drama. They glorify the hardships of love, the heartbreak that comes with it, and I don’t deny that it does hurt when someone you love doesn’t love you back, but what about when the other people you love leave you? Why don’t they warn you about those repercussions first?
The media and technology have done many great things for our world but creating a realistic picture of a normal relationship and love, is not one of them. The sappy movies, the overly emotional songs, the far from real posts seen on social media – I could go on for days listing all the outlets media uses to warp the meaning and truth when it comes to love. These false representations of people in love leaves others feeling like they missed something, because it seems as if everyone is one the same page but them. What they don’t realize is that no one is on that page. That page doesn’t exist. It is an enigma in which no one has been able to fully obtain, and why they would want to I honestly don’t know.
The problem, in my opinion, starts with the relationships that aren’t romantic. Most people in the world seem to be obsessed with finding the “one”. It isn’t their fault. Our society has made everyone think that there is some soulmate out there in the world for them, they only need to find them. The sad part is, people have come to believe that the fleeting empty or incomplete feeling they are experiencing is because they haven’t found their love. It baffles me to see all these people searching for relationships that will make them feel happy, while blind to the fact that they are surrounded by relationships that matter more.
Think of your family, your friends, your role models, why are you not focusing on those relationships first?
The reality of life is that people you think you love will come and go all throughout your life, but the other people you love, in a non-romantic way, they stay. Unless, you don’t make it worthwhile to stay, because you only care about the other kind of love.
What do you do then?
I don’t know why the world has decided that heartbreak is now the romantic equivalent to someone crying into their pillow at 2:00am because they miss someone who didn’t love them back the way they wanted them too. But sometimes, heartbreak comes at 11:00am when you’re alone in your kitchen, and the dusty morning light with the smell of coffee makes you miss the way things used to be so badly, that you don’t know what to do with your hands.
And it isn’t romantic at all.
Because your heart can break from people who were more important than the love you thought you wanted, and now you’ve lost them too.