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Have y’all ever heard of the famous “that girl” routine? If you haven’t, let me tell you what it is all about. It starts out with these girls waking up anywhere from 5 am to 7 am. They make their beds, workout, meditate, make a delicious healthy breakfast, and create an aesthetically pleasing matcha or iced coffee to have a great start to a productive day. Now, don’t get me wrong, this is not bad whatsoever. If you are “that girl,” keep doing you boo. However, I am not “that girl.” I’m sure many of you can relate—I try to be her and fail. This was a repeated cycle for a while. I am over it and I have a feeling many of you are too. So, it’s time to become “that woman.”

What is “that woman” you may ask. It is being a woman you want to be. There are no set guidelines to it. You don’t have to get up at 5 am if you don’t want to. However, if there is a day you feel like getting up early or you like waking up at the crack of dawn, do it and get things done. It is all up to you. Don’t let anyone else tell you how to live your life because we are all different. However, I am going to give you some tips to get you started on becoming the woman you desire to become.

Find a time for productivity—look, I know how hard it can be to be productive all day long for hours at a time. A lot of the time it is not feasible. So, find a time to be productive. It can be at morning, night, or right in the middle of the day. Find a time where you can knock out many of your to dos. This will let you spend the rest of the day how you would like.

Find the right health/fitness style— I could go on and on about this topic. There are so many people, videos, and websites that try to tell you the right way to work out and the right way to gain/lose weight. Let me tell you something: #1: your body is a temple and each one is different. So, please research into health and fitness before you start any rigorous dieting or workout routine. This will not only help you work on your body healthily but keep yourself safe. #2: if you love the body that God gave you, don’t try to change it for anyone! You are gorgeous just the way you are.

Find your voice—Women in the past have fought so hard to gain their voice in society. Now, for the most part, we have a voice. We can stand up for what we believe in and create change. So, to become “that women” use your voice! This could be done in a monumental way or an everyday task. Whatever you do, don’t back down. Us women need to stick together and truly fight for what we believe in most.

Find what makes you truly confident— Confidence does not just come from looks. It also comes from personality. However, let’s start with looks. Find your style! Find the clothes that make you feel like an absolute goddess. When it comes to makeup/hair, do what makes you feel the prettiest. You are never too dressed up or dressed down, girl. Again, you are perfect just the way you are. When it comes to personality, even when you don’t feel like it, let your confidence shine through. Be nice, sweet, and loving, yet daring, determined, and strong. Confidence can shine through all emotions.

Learn how to say no and don’t take no for an answer—lastly, this. You don’t have to do everything to be “that woman.” It’s okay to say no at times. If you don’t want to go out one night, say no. If you need to sleep instead of study at times, then sleep. It’s okay to say no truly. That ties back to finding your voice. However, never take no for an answer. If someone tells you no and that you can’t do something because you are a woman, prove them wrong. Because trust me, they are wrong.

To all my fellow women out there, becoming “that woman” isn’t hard at all. Because “that woman” is who you want to be. You get to choose. So, with these tips in mind, why don’t you choose to become HER. Reach for the stars!

Madison Swafford is on the writing team for Her campus at the University of Kansas chapter! She writes mostly opinionated articles dealing with life and culture. Beyond Her Campus, Madison works at the Boys and Girls Club of Lawrence where she utilizes her creative mind to help behavioral children and design lessons for them. She is also getting involved in the University Daily Kansan. Madison is a sophomore at the University of Kansas studying multimedia journalism with a minor in psychology. In Madison's free time, she loves to sing and read. She loves trying new things and hanging out with friends. Her competitive nature makes everything a challenge and she enjoys writing creative stories whenever she has the time.