We’ve all been there. You wake up with a missed call from the one and only “DO NOT ANSWER.” Immediately 1,000 ideas come rushing through your head. What does he want? Why is he reaching out? What do I do? Well, ladies, I’m here to tell you exactly what to do when your ex-decides to creep back into your life. First of all, Ex’s are cut out of your life for a reason. Whether it was a rough break up or a friendly alliance, it’s still hard to imagine life with that person again. It might take you hours, seconds, or days to come up with a conclusion or response to an email they sent you, and it won’t be easy. Maybe you’re better than most of us and won’t even answer at all. Think about it though, did Carrie Bradshaw teach us nothing? Carrie Bradshaw always called BS on the men she was with and knew that there was real romance out there for her instead of the fake love she was constantly receiving.
Look, I’m no therapist, but I’ve been had the highest highs and lowest lows with some of my ex’s. When they reach out it’s like your heart drops to the pit of your stomach and stays there all day long. All you want is answers, and you keep thinking about the “what if’s” as if this time will be different. But I’m telling you, it probably won’t be different. I have faith that if you give a person so many chances, then they aren’t the one. One chance should be enough if it’s true love. And yes, people do change, don’t get me wrong. There is nothing wrong with finally burying the hatchet of a nasty breakup and being friends, but, you should never settle for less. If you know that what you had was toxic, don’t fall for it again. Reminiscing on what you once had won’t change what you have now, and what you might have in the future. So, if you feel the need to answer your ex, then do it. And be as honest as you’d like. Tell him or her exactly what you’ve been thinking and what you want. There is a quote by Dr. Suess that I live by, “be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” If you decide to text him back or give him a call, be unapologetically you. And remember, he’s your EX for a reason. Stay true to yourself and your word. The best person will show up in your life when you least expect it, have some faith! If you decide not to answer, go you! Go out with some friends and focus on yourself, that’s what Carrie Bradshaw would do.