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A Collegiette’s Guide to: Sexting

This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at IUP chapter.

Her:So I haven’t heard from you in a while
Me:Can’t stop thinking about me huh?
Her:You wish, something smelled bad in the trash and I thought of you
Me:Not surprised, you are a pretty filthy girl
Her:Only in bed
Me:Yeah maybe we will have another shot at that sometime. (If you are lucky)
Her:I wanna be lucky!
Me:I used to have a dog named lucky, if you want… I still have his collar
Her:Ruff Ruff!!!
Me:I think I might have to keep you away from the cat box
Her:ROLFL, shut up! That is so gross! My dog does that all the time.
Me: Okay, lucky the dog. Beg for me and I will see you on Saturday
Her:Already on my knees

 
The conversation above, which appears on http://sextingexamples.org/, is an example of one of the latest (and perhaps the most provocative) trend to hit the Internet: SEXTING! What is sexting, you ask? According to Wikipedia, sexting is “the act of sending sexually explicit messages or photographs, primarily between mobile phones.”  In other words, it’s sexual flirtation done over the phone.

Nowadays, with almost everyone having some sort of access to technology, things such as sexting are becoming hugely popular because everyone can participate. The problem with sexting, however, is that not everyone is smart or mature enough to properly sext. Honestly, how many times have we heard of someone’s private pictures being leaked to the public? With that in mind, after doing some internet research, and talking with a few friends, I have compiled a list of 7 sexting tips that are sure to keep you out of trouble, as well as make sure the job gets done.

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Seven Fail-Safe Ways to Properly SEXT

1.       PLEASE know who you are sexting! Something interesting that I found out is that people actually sext over the internet–I always thought it was just through texts. Anyway, the point is that if you are sexting over the internet, you run the same risk as someone who does online dating. Just because someone says they are this age, or that gender, etc, does not mean they are telling the truth. Be smart!

2.       Be Subtle! The idea is to be flirty, not overly sexual. Leave something to the imagination; it makes it more exciting.

3.       Don’t be too complicated! This tip goes hand in hand with tip number two. While you shouldn’t be too bluntly sexual, the person you are sexting should have some idea what your sext is in reference to. If the person has to repeatedly ask what your meaning is, it’s NOT sexy.

4.       Get to really know who you are sexting before you sext them! While this may sound like tip number one, there is a difference. The important thing with this tip is that you should know whether the person you are sexting is someone you can trust not to share any private messages with the entire world (unless you fancy seeing naked pictures of yourself on Twitter). Also, it couldn’t hurt to take a little time to figure out what turns your sexting partner on. That way, you can tailor your sexts to match their desires.

5.       Please make sure you have the green light to sext someone! This may sound obvious, but I’ve heard of situations where people have sexted someone and it was NOT ok. Make sure the person is cool with you sexting them, or you could end up ruining a relationship/friendship.

6.       Don’t be lame! Ways in which one can be lame: over-exaggerating, not being sexy enough, and using complicated language. No one wants a liar–there’s no point in sexting if you’re not turned on–and no one wants to have to pull out a dictionary in order to sext you. It’s just not worth it.

7.       Ease into it, but don’t take all day either! The first words you type should never be outright explicit, but if it’s been two hours and you’re still making small talk, it’s time to move on.
Well, there are your seven ways to properly sext someone: let’s review! It’s important to know the person you are sexting inside and out; no one likes someone who is lame, cocky, or boring; and it’s always more interesting to leave a bit to the imagination. Don’t just tell someone the action– make them want to experience it in person! Follow these tips, and you should be a sexting pro in no time.

Happy Sexting!
 

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Sources:
http://sextingexamples.org/
http://abcnews.go.com/Technology/WorldNews/sexting-teens/story?id=6456834
http://www.cracked.com/blog/7-tips-sexting-someone-you-barely-know/
http://www.askmen.com/dating/dating_advice_400/477_sexting-etiquette.html
http://www.focusonlinecommunitites.com
http://www.bplteensofwa.wordpress.com

Hailing from the City of Brotherly Love and Sisterly Affection, Junene is a current student at Indiana University of PA majoring in Journalism. She has three minors consisting of Communications Media, English: Film Studies track, and Religious Studies.She is the founding President/Editor in Chief of IUP's branch of Hercampus.com, and is the Founder/President of the IUP women's organization That's What She Said. She is also a current member of SPJ, ( Society of Professional Journalists) PRSSA (Public Relations Student Society of America), CSCR (Committee for the Study of Culture and Religion) and Vice President of the Religious Studies Club at IUP. She is the sole undergradate member of IUPs' Library Outreach and Marketing Committee and is a member of the Student Advisory Group. Junene is a first generation college student; her favorite film is The Usual Suspects and her favorite book is And Then There Were None, authored by Agatha Christie.