Across the State for Love too Many Times a Year to Count

You know those super sappy Molly Ringwald movies where she ALWAYS gets the guy in the end. Yeah. My life is nothing like that BUT I did get the best guy in the end. See, my whole life I was underappreciated, undermined and unloved by everyone the same age as me. Other than my close friends of course. It’s hard to find love when you have never experienced it. When I came to IUP I was looking for someone to love me. A lot of guys hurt me in the beginning because of this and I made some big mistakes. That doesn’t matter though because it led me to who I am with today.

Anthony. Always goofy, loving, sweet, and whole. He keeps me sane. He can pull me out of the darkness that so often takes over. He tells me when I am being stupid. He tells me how pretty I am and makes me feel good about myself. He respects me. He is my other half. I couldn’t do it without him. Before I met him I was by myself: isolated to my dorm and classes. I ate by myself often and in my room to avoid stares. The first two months of college I was more alone than ever. No car to get home, no friends, nothing.

That all changed when I met him. He accepts me as a person and for who I am. He travels 286 miles one way to see me during breaks. It sucks that we grew up on opposite sides of the state because PA is HUGE. You don’t realize it until you have driven back and forth a couple of times. We spend parts of the break together but for the most part, I stay here to work. It’s hard being apart for months but it's more than some high school Molly Ringwald movie scene. He is my future and it is hard but in the long run, when I graduate and move on to med school, I know he will be right there next to me.

There’s one problem with driving across the state a bunch is I get car sick lol. So, I have to prepare, look forward, drink water, crack my window, and breathe for 5 hours. I have gotten sick twice and it sucks. It is so worth it though to see his family. I love all of them. They treat me so welcoming, it’s like I have the sisters I have always wanted.

silhouette of man and woman kissing at sunset Photo by Annette Sousa from Unsplash

Hard isn’t impossible if the goal is worth it.