Welcome back, Gusties! It’s time to settle back into life on the hill and prepare for what’s sure to be an awesome fall semester (minus that whole ‘studying’ thing)! The first weeks back on campus are always full of such great times—catching up with your much-missed pals, savoring the joys of not having that many assignments (hopefully), and getting back to those clubs and activities that have been awaiting you all summer! However, one of the keys to ensuring a successful and happy year lies in solidifying a good relationship with your roommate. Whether you’re living with one person or four, it’s essential to form a positive relationship with someone you’ll be spending a LOT of time around. Here are a few tips for getting your relationship off to the best start and keeping it that way.
1. Discuss expectations.
It’s important that you address the big (and little) things right away to avoid anything becoming a conflict down the road. Discuss guidelines for visitors, cleanliness, bedtimes/wake up times, sharing, rules for who buys snacks/groceries, and anything else that you feel needs to be talked about early on.
2. Get to know each other and find common ground.
Figure out your similarities and embrace them! If you don’t know each other already, the first few weeks of school are a great time to learn more about each other. It’s always nice to find out that you share an appreciation for the same Netflix show or that you both love to jam to old Jonas Brothers tunes.
3. Show that you care and support each other!
Ask your roomie about their day, their last class, or even how their sport practices are going. If they play a sport or sing in choir, head over to one of their meets or concerts to show a little love. Sometimes it’s the little things that matter the most!
4. When in doubt, talk it out.
Even the best of friends and roommates fight. In the event of conflict between you and your roomie—communicate! Face-to-face contact is always best, as are those “I feel…” statements you learned back in grade school. Be sure to express to your roommate how the conflict made you feel and then work together to figure out a solution. Avoid using any statements that are accusatory and have a mature and rational conversation. CF’s are also available to mediate a conversation between you and your roomie if you feel that having a impartial third person present would be helpful.
5. You don’t have to be the best of friends.
It is totally possible to create a wonderful roommate relationship and living environment with someone who isn’t your best friend. As long as you communicate and understand each other’s expectations, you’re on your way to a successful year!
Good luck forming roomie bonds! Wishing you a happy and healthy school year! HCXO!