The end of the school year means many things. The tans are coming back, the anticipation of Georgetown Day and other end of the year activities is building, and maybe (just maybe) the stress of upcoming finals is creeping up on us. Although there are places to store our TVs and printers when May 11th rolls by, what about our non-committed “relationships”? Yes. The inevitable question of what to do with that boy you’ve been hooking up with all semester or the crush that has finally (and untimely) decided to talk to you last weekend after nearly a year of no communication. It sucks when summer comes as soon as things with your guy seem to be picking up, but it may just be for the best. After all, if you are not officially dating, is it worth all of the trouble anyway? Here are the top five reasons to end your “not-really-a-relationship-relationship” before the end of the school year, especially if it is unclear what exactly that “relationship” is…
- Not Fair to You: In most cases, you are not going to be next-door neighbors with your college crush. It just wouldn’t be practical to keep a long distance relationship with a guy you are not even in a relationship with. Even if he happens to live five minutes away, if he is not showing any signs of committing to you during the summer, he probably just wants to keep it strictly college. If you are okay with this, ending things should be a no brainer. But if you happen to want more, maybe this should be a sign that he is not worth the heartache.
- Potential Summer Flings: Summer is usually the best season to meet new cuties. Maybe you are summering down the shore or at your family’s beach house. Maybe you have a new internship or job. Whatever the case may be, meeting new people during the months of May to August is highly likely. Why limit yourself to that college guy who only booty calls you on Friday and Saturdays? Who knows…maybe that new guy you work with will turn out to be the real deal.
- Too Busy: Maybe you are the one who doesn’t want the summer commitment. Summer is a busy month for college students. Time is limiting and being “together” with someone (especially long distance) takes a lot of work. If the guy is really into it, chances are he will stick around until you are ready. Maybe plan a weekend here and there to visit each other. However, if you are the one who wants that commitment, try talking to your guy about it. Communication is key to maintaining any relationship. If you really think this “thing” can go anywhere, ask him what is going to happen when the two of you are not conveniently living on the same campus.
- Time apart: It is pretty easy to get sucked into a toxic tug-of-war relationship with someone who is really just using you in the long run. The summer might be a great time to reflect on what the two of you had and if it has the potential of going anywhere in the future. Sometimes, separation can give us a clearer head and lead us in the right direction for next year. It’ll also be a good test to see if he reaches out to you during those months. If he doesn’t, it might be time to say adios. After all, (excuse the corniest), “If you love something set it free. If it comes back to you, it’s yours. If it doesn’t, it never was.”
- Single Doesn’t Mean I’m Lookin’ for Somebody: Let’s be real. Being single in the summer is definitely not the worst thing in the world. It’ll give you the time to visit your friends, plan spontaneous trips, hook up with whomever, and have fun! Also, most of us will probably be reconnecting with high school friends and homeboys. Keeping up with that college thing might weigh us down and prevent us from fully enjoying nearly three months of freedom.