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This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at GCU chapter.

To all you beautiful ladies: being single is not a bad thing. Is it hard? Yes. Is it lonely? Sometimes.

However good news awaits…we have our whole lives to find our husbands. We have eternity to find our special “soulmate” . There is this common need, want and goal to get married by the end of college. Attempt at viewing things in God’s plan, instead of your agenda. 

Singleness is an awesome concept. It is both light and freeing. Blessings come to those who wait! Instant gratification does not come in relationship form- It is not a text sent or an Uber eats delivery. It will not make you a better human, a more put together being, or even more attractive.

Being yourself, expressing your glory, and flying freely is the way to a whole hearted relationship. You cannot be in a healthy commitment without self love, routine, ethics, and morals. If you are yearning for love, do not rush it. Just like in the kitchen, eating uncooked meat might make you sick. There is no one that can truly predict the future; however, having a steady grip on your despair for love will indeed change the way you love others, yourself, and most importantly God. God is the author of your book. Do not scribble in the lines because you want to or because you have to meet a deadline that you have created in your head. 

Marriage is a huge deal and so is giving yourself away to someone. As humans, we crave closeness, but the heart gets attached quickly, and not even intentionally. It is easy to go after things we may think are right, but guard yourself and speak power into your relationships. 

You, my friend are worth the wait. Regardless of your relationship status, you should always stay true to yourself. Waiting will not change your specialness and individuality. Take for example the saying “ring by spring.” This concept can become a way of rushing something that may not be best for yourself or the relationship you are in. There is no being, thing, item or price tag that will change how special you are to God. 

We are so young and we have our whole lives to live out and create. Do not let the idea of having to be taken consume you, instead, be in the moment with your friends and create lasting memories. Practice loving others, the way you would love a spouse. Dance in glory knowing you will find that special someone and take your grasp off of the wheel. 

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There is something so beautiful to living in the moment, and not hunting for a human to complete you. Experience the world’s goodness! 

This is a message for both the single and taken. Love is not a ball to casually toss around and should be treated like a baby, learning to walk. 


Hi! My name is Savanna Kerr. I was born in Hawaii/grew up in Seattle. I attend GCU and I am studying professional writing and psychology. I was previously a journalist and eventually head editor for my school newspaper in high school called The Kolus. I am looking forward to being on this team!