You know that one friend (or multiple friends) who never include you in their plans and you swear they leave you out of things on purpose? You sometimes find it hard to communicate with them and quite frankly, they aren’t the most trustworthy or reliable people. Maybe this friend is doing things you don’t agree with and that make you uncomfortable. These kinds of people simply don’t match up to what you think of when you think of the word “friend.”
We’re all guilty of having someone like this in our lives at one point or another. It is harder to come to terms with these kinds of friendships when you have shared so many memories with them and you used to be able to confide in them. But let’s face it, people change and so do you. Sometimes people aren’t meant to last in our lives forever, but only to teach us a lesson or two.
I had never really had terrible fall outs with a friend; only distancing myself when I knew it was the right thing to do. However, coming into college I was nervous, away from home, and eager to find myself, which I’m sure a lot of us are/were. I found that the one friend I thought I could confide in and was the only person at my previous school that I knew, was not who I thought they were. Once school started it was almost as if I didn’t exist to them even though I knew we had so many memories together. I had never felt so ignored, alone and put to the side. This person was not the type of person I needed at this point in my life.
This is when I made the conscious decision that I’d never allow a “friend” or another person make me feel so low. Instead, I have found friends who make me feel the opposite. I feel loved, happy and like I have importance to the people I surround myself with now.
Sometimes it takes moments like the experience I had to realize that there are certain people who don’t get the privilege to be your friend; you rock and you deserve to surround yourself with people who are positive and bring you up!
If you have someone who brings you down in your life, weigh out the pros and cons of the friendship if it’s something that means a lot to you. Talk to them about how you’re feeling. In the end, you may decide that they are not someone you want to hang around anymore, and that’s totally okay.
Think about the type of people you want to create memories with and the types of friendships that seem effortless: choose them wisely! It will make all the difference.
xoxo,
Adri
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