We’ve all been in those relationships where we know we’re not happy, but don’t have the courage to end it. We love the idea of the relationship and genuinely care about the person, but deep down it’s clear you’re looking for something different. Sometimes we are just truly unsure if ending it is the right thing to do. After all, it’s always better to be with someone than to not be with anyone at all, right? Wrong. Never settle for anything less than what you deserve, or want. College is a place where your independence and your courage is truly put to the test. Everyone has their own beliefs and opinions on what they believe will make you happy. However, the first step towards happiness is being able to trust your gut and opinions, as well as being able to block out the beliefs of others who try to get involved. If you’re unsure if your relationship is something worth staying in, consider these scenarios.
1. You’re not happyIf you’re in a relationship where you find yourself constantly trying to convince yourself that you’re happy, chances are you’re not even close to that. Why spend time trying to make a relationship appear more than it truly is? Look back on your relationship and think of the last time you were truly excited or giddy with your significant other. If this time is no where close to being recent or you cant remember a time like this at all, then chances are it’s time to end it and move on to someone that will make you feel the way you should.
2. He cheatedIf he cheated on you then there is no reason to even think about not breaking it off. Although many might use the excuse that “it meant nothing”, the reality is that it takes two to cheat. Even if he didn’t necessarily make the first move, he still chose to participate in the cheating and clearly didn’t have you in mind as he was doing it. Move on to someone who will truly respect you and won’t break your trust.
3. You like someone elseIf you find yourself having temptations about talking to other people, chances are you are not truly invested in your relationship. If the attraction isn’t there anymore, it’s time to break it off. Cheating is never something that should be tolerated and instead of having the possibility of hurting your significant other, tell him how you’re truly feeling. Although he might be upset with the news at first, he will be a lot more grateful in the fact that you were honest with him, rather than hearing that you stayed with him this whole time even when you knew you were over it a long time ago.
4. It’s dragging onOne last reason to consider letting your relationship go is if you feel there is no purpose in it. The relationship has neither improved nor declined and you find yourself just bored with what you have. Part of a healthy relationship is being able to grow with each other as you progress farther. However, if it’s the opposite and you find yourself having to talk yourself into thinking that with more time something might come from it, then it’s time to take control and find someone worth the time and effort.