Dear RLEG,
No matter what I do, I cannot seem to get out of the friend zone. Any guy I meet automatically puts me there! How do I get noticed as more than that?
HELP!
-Just so friendly
Dear Just so friendly,
Ah the friend zone. The friend zone is a great place for some relationships. It allows for trust, and other
friend-based feelings. But it definitely does not allow for anything sexier (except if alcohol gets involved… then things can get a little sticky). But what if you don’t want to be in the friend zone? There is a certain frustration that comes from being placed there immediately, this is definitely true. There are a couple things you can try though to up your chances of steering clear of the black hole that is, the friend zone.
A lot of girls don’t like to hear this, but being “one of the guys” isn’t always sexy. Some girls can pull it off, but most can’t and it’s a 100% guarantee of a one-way ticket to the F.Z. You’re a girl and you can use that to your advantage—make sure you set yourself apart from the guys. Being a friend and being more require entirely different ways of approaching a new relationship. Be flirty and touchy, but don’t overdo it, that can come off as desperate.
I hope you have a little more luck in avoiding that oh so friendly place. Good luck on your flirty adventures.
-RLEG