An unexpected change…
It happens to all of us, men and women alike. Unexpected break ups can be hard to handle. They cause stress, emotion, and we’re often left lonely. One reason why we feel this way is because we’ve spent a lot of our time with that single person. With them out of the picture it’s easy to feel that we are stranded on an island. If you’re encountering this situation here are some helpful, healthy tips to getting back on track and back to happiness.
My first suggestion is to keep a daily planner. By charting out your day, you will see just how busy you are. If you have spare time, do something that you were restricted from by being in your past relationship. For me it was the time to work on my truck; for you it might be getting a manicure or going shopping. The point is to take the free time to relearn who you are as an independent person.
Secondly, after break ups we feel that we won’t find someone else because our lives have been so routine since first getting into a relationship. A simple way to see some new people or enjoy new things is by changing your plans. Go to class a little earlier or a little later, by doing so you’ll see new faces. You might even make that awkward but enjoyable eye contact with someone you find attractive. Another thing you can do is change what you do for meals. If you make yourself breakfast every morning, begin to use a meal swipe. Elon’s dining halls and Octagon are hot spots for all sorts of people, some of whom you might take an interest in. Also, change your gym time. If you’re seeing familiar faces every time you workout, go at a different time. The gym can be a great place to connect with someone new.
My third and final suggestion is usual but very undervalued. Take time to reconnect with the friends you haven’t been able to spend as much time with. We often weaken friendships by being in relationships, show your friends your are the same you that they love. It’s always fun to rekindle friendships and get back to what you and your friends enjoy-being together.
So, don’t sulk, don’t be upset. Look at what could come of the split. You can discover yourself. Independence can be one of the most empowering qualities to a person. Be happy with who you are, outside of your past relationship.