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If you have found yourself using a dating app in the past few years, you are not alone. When you feel as though you’ve found someone who could be the one or even more through these apps it could be the best feeling in the world. You believe as though you will never have to go looking for another relationship, believing that this person has anything and everything you could want in a SO and more.
But what do you do if they never want to Facetime or talk on the phone? Or maybe you are noticing inconsistencies in things they are telling you? Maybe you have even seen some suspiciously similar looking social media accounts. It’s never easy in the slightest to admit to yourself or those around you that the one you’ve been so excited about; and who you thought could be the one for you, might not actually exist. So I’m here to spill some wisdom on just how to tell.
They Have Never Facetimed Or Called You
This can be one of the most telltale signs that someone is hiding behind an identity that is not truly theirs. If you are always willing to make time in your schedule to talk to someone; as you are finding them to be important in your life, and they are not willing to do the same for you (or are worse making excuses) then it might be for a reason. This person might be doing their best to hide from you through a potential phone conversation that they are really a woman masquerading as a man or vice versa. They may be trying to potentially hide that they are a 40-year-old man using the pictures of a 19-year-old and in turn are avoiding Facetime. They will often say “I really want to talk to you” or something along those lines. But when you go to call them, they almost always will not answer; and that is only if you get that far. Usually, there will be some kind of excuse that comes up before you even get as far as dialing a number. This is a true sign though because if this person wanted you to know who they truly were, they would let you.
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Their Stories Don’t Match Up
You have probably told this person many stories and heard many stories from them in return, but if you have realized some smaller details or even bigger details from past stories coming to light in the present that seem a bit different. This could be any number of things from lying about places traveled in the past to the number of siblings they have, to any number of other things. For the most part, this happens when the person makes up a story and has all of the fictional details associated with the story pulled together while they tell it the first time, but when it comes to carrying those details across to other stories they tell, they can’t keep track of all of the lies they’ve told and details end up getting strewn. If this person was truly who they said they were, they would find no need to make up stories in order to match the persona of who they are pretending to be. In turn, there would be no issues with keeping details straight, leading to this being yet another red flag that this person is not who they say they are.
They Are Too Good Looking To Be Real
What drew you to this person was most likely their appearance. You probably found them extremely attractive. You probably saw their picture and instantly began thinking about what a cute couple the two of you would make. As you’ve gone on though, those around you may have started to tip you off on the fact that this person might just be a bit too good looking. The profile picture of that tall guy with the nice abs and the great smile that was such an eye catcher while scrolling through that dating app may have been there for just that; to catch your eye. People like these put pictures of extremely attractive people on dating apps in the hopes that you will go for them based on their appearance and not much else. They know that appearance is what most people go for these days, especially when it comes to online dating; and in turn know that they can lure you in with one or two attractive pictures of any person they come across, regardless of whether or not those pictures are true of them.
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Their Social Media Accounts Look Suspicious
Although doing some social media scouting at the start of a new relationship is completely normal, and you are bound to come across a thing or two that stirs up a bit of suspicion, that is completely normal. It is a completely different thing when you try to go scouting for social media accounts and come up with accounts that are filled with pictures that look as though they were stolen off of popular accounts and claimed. Or find a slew of accounts hosting the exact same pictures. In some cases, they might have no social media accounts at all. This should be one of the biggest tip-offs of all that this person is definitely trying to pull one over and pretend to be someone that they’re not.