TW: sexual assault/violence and suicide
I have always been passionate about the issues surrounding any form of sexual assualt/violence. As time has gone on, I am so proud of movements like the Me Too Movement, and I am still shocked that it can be controversial to some people. Sexual violence, in all forms, is never a political thing, but it is and has ALWAYS been a human thing. No one of any background or affiliation deserves to have their rights and choices stripped away from them. I knew I wanted to focus on this topic and write about how we need it – especially on college campuses across the world. Although, it is a hard topic to write about and I honestly didn’t really know where to start.
While many people of many different ages deal with sexual assault, I started by reading horrendous stories on college campuses about this topic. They were shocking, hard to read, and showed the true colors of some universities. Here are just a few that I found:
Along with all of these heartbreaking stories, I then saw these quotes from victims:
“Guys aren’t supposed to be victims. We’re supposed to be manly.”
“I feel like I did that to myself.”
When we do not talk about sexual assault, we make it stigmitized. Then, in turn, the victims end up blaming themselves for something they did not do or cause to happen. Sexual assault is always the predators fault. When we make strict rules or put in place things like dress codes to “protect” we are hurting our students, and we are failing them. We are telling them that their worth and safety is dependent upon clothes or other things. When in reality, our safety should be dependent upon teaching those around us how to respect other human beings. Instead of victim blaming, we need to educate and push movements that help victims.
RAINN, the nation’s largest anti-sexual violence nonprofit organization, reported that 26.4% of female undergraduates experience rape/assault, 23.1% of Transgender/Nonconforming college students experience rape/assault, and 6.8% of male undergraduates experience rape/assault. To help combat these statistics and stories, RAINN helps victims by offering hotlines, counseling services, and they fight to give victims justice. Their website states that in the past 27 years, they have helped 3.7 million survivors and their family/friends.
We need this month. We need more education. We need justice, and we need to provide support. You never know what someone’s story is or what they have gone through. This April, be kind, be loving, and keep fighting for what is right.
National Sexual Assault Hotline: 800-656-4673
National Suicide Prevention Hotline: 800-273-8255