When to Hang Up a Hookup

• Don’t text about your day: One important statement that is easy to say but harder to remember, “he is not my boyfriend.” You two may be intimate physically, but talking to the person about your day fosters a false sense of emotional intimacy. If you are not looking to hook up, then hang up the phone. Save the rant about your evil Chemistry professor for one of your friends.
• Don’t spend the night: Some post-coital cuddling is fine, but sleeping over leads to borrowing his shorts, bringing a toothbrush and leaving a toothbrush. It’s a slippery slope, but it’s one which can be avoided.
• Keep the cuteness to a minimum: There is no need to talk about hypothetical baby names or life dreams with someone you know casually. Save the sweet stuff for someone with whom you want to share your future.

2. 2 a.m. texts leave you downtrodden rather than dizzy with anticipation: There is a difference between a nervous flutter in your stomach and a pit of dread. Trust your body. Even if the person in question matches everything you thought you wanted, something is obviously wrong. Hookups are supposed to be guilt-free fun. If you feel guilty, depressed or upset after an encounter of the casual kind, then chalk the event up to experience and move on to something more your speed. Just because you have friends who can flit from guy to guy unscathed doesn’t mean that friends with benefits is the right thing for you.

3. It’s not convenient: Everyone knows that relationships take work. Friends with benefits, on the other hand, promises no-strings-attached sex.  When it becomes complicated, it’s time to cut ties.