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Relationship Advice: What We Can Learn From Selena Gomez’s Musical Career

This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at Casper Libero chapter.

Selena Gomez has been in the music industry for over a decade! With so many years of experience, she had the opportunity to sing about various topics that affected her life, such as heartbreaks, being in love and learning to love and be herself. She grew up in front of us, and her music give us such important life lessons and, of course, relationship advice. 

To those who have been in her position, or in a similar situation, here are some things you might want to know!

If you are going to love someone, then give it your all, just like in a happy love song!

I have to start out by mentioning Love you like a love song, because all relationship advice comes from love songs. And throughout the lyrics she describes a perfect boy and compares him to aspects of an actual love song.

Sometimes the right thing to do is to give it all, be happy, crazy and confident

The moment you find yourself singing: “can’t keep my hands to myself” loud and proud, is when you know you’ve got Selena’s message and you are finally confident in bed and in your relationship. We all know there is that honeymoon phase where you literally track your boy down every night just to get it on, and Selena kind of did the same in her music video with a boy she pretended was hers… So if Sel can do it, so can you!

Don’t settle for something that’s not good enough

Not everything is roses and love. When things just aren’t working out and you feel like that’s all you will ever get. Get out. You will find someone who treats you like the most important thing in the world, so don’t stay stuck on that Same Old Love, as Gomez sings in one of her biggest hits. Girl, that love tore you up but do as she says and don’t waste any more time on that bad partner.

Just because things are over it doesn’t mean you can’t ever get back together

“You could break my heart in two

But when it heals, it beats for you…”

The lyrics says it all, it happens, people break up, but there is no rule that they can´t get back together. In Back to You, Gomez shows that the years may pass and someday you might find that old lover and even get back with him. All you have to do is forget the past and move on to a bright future. 

If you don’t love yourself first, it’s not going to be easy to love someone else

If you haven’t heard Selena’s newest hit then go right now and play Lose You to Love Me. This song gives you the biggest advice of them all: the first relationship you have to prioritize is the one you have with yourself. With no self love, it’s very complicated to love somebody else and the singer shares her journey of letting go of a boy to learn to love herself.

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