The weather is getting warmer, and a lot of us are starting to feel the burn — literally and metaphorically. Summer vacation is only a month away, and for those of us in relationships, this is a crucial time for us. Whether you’re currently in a long distance relationship or trying to decide whether you want to sustain one over the summer, here are eight tips for surviving a LDR.
Lay out your rules and expectations
It seems like it should be obvious, but it still needs to be said: establish rules! There’s no way around it – just as in any other relationship, you need to know where you stand. Are you exclusive, or are you allowed to see other people? Will you visit each other every other week? Every month? There are no “right” or “wrong” rules to have, but you need to know what to expect.
Talk often
I can’t stress this one enough – talk often! Whether it’s a text good morning, a phone call goodnight, or a mid-day Skype sesh, make sure to talk to your S.O. on a regular basis. Also, try to have meaningful conversation; a back-and-forth composed of entirely “hey” and “what’s up” just won’t cut it.
Make use of social media
We live in such a high-tech world; it would be ridiculous if we didn’t take advantage of it. Skype and FaceTime will quickly become your best friends, but don’t don’t forget to research and download apps like Couple, which are geared toward LDRs.
Surprise each other
One of the best things about being in a LDR is that there are dozens of opportunities to surprise your S.O. Whether it’s something as elaborate as an unexpected visit or as simple as a letter in the mail, don’t forget to keep things interesting.
Flirt with each other
Contrary to popular belief, there’s no point in a relationship where flirting with each other stops becoming acceptable. Flirt your heart out, girl! You (and your S.O.) deserve it.
Make plans
It’s always easier to get through a long period of time without seeing your S.O. if you have an end date in mind. Even if you won’t be seeing them for another six weeks, knowing that you only have X number of days before you see them again helps a lot.
Don’t compare yourself to other couples
When you’re in a LDR, you’ll probably be tempted to compare yourselves to other couples – especially when you’re going through a rough patch. As difficult as it is, try not to do it. You don’t know what the other couple might be going through, and they don’t know what you’re going through. Each couple is different, and trying to compare your relationship to others is only a recipe for disaster.
Have faith
Last but certainly not least, have faith. In order for a LDR to work, you have to be able to trust your partner, and vice versa. Without trust, you won’t have a solid basis for a healthy relationship.
Most importantly, figure out what works for you as an individual. Every person is completely different, so there are really no clear-cut rules for this. In the end, your wellbeing is what’s most important. As messy and beautiful as this all can get, don’t forget that. You do you, girl.