Whether you’re moving out or commuting from home, going to college is a big transition in life. Sometimes it’s nice to have someone to share this experience with and have by your side during this wild ride called “college.” However, sometimes it also takes experience to learn the grass isn’t always greener on the other side, or in other words, going to college with your significant other may not be as fun as you thought it’d be.
Let’s be nice and start with the pros:
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No more eating lunch alone and looking like a sad, lonely and starving college student. Instead you can enjoy lunch with someone by your side while you look like a starving and only kinda lonely college student.
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Someone who actually wants to spend their weekend studying with you because all that counts is that you’re spending time together. (awww)
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Someone to buy you flowers at the Farmer’s Market every Thursday. No more buying yourself a bouquet of daisies.
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Having someone to stay in all day and watch Netflix with, because your roommates might look at you a little weird if you try to spoon with them.
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You don’t have to deal with the stress of flirting, dating or worrying about a text back because having one less thing to worry about in college is always nice.
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You can wear sweatpants all the time and it’s okay (not that it’s not not okay).
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You learn a lot about yourself as well as what you want in a relationship, which is great for someone who’s young and still discovering what they want out of life and relationships.
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You have someone to vent to when classes get a little too stressful or your roommates get under your skin and the best part is, they understand the struggle because they’re in the same situation!
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No agonizing long distance relationship because you get to enjoy the privilege of seeing your s/o everyday if you want, which means no need for skype or facetime. Instead, you can enjoy some quality time face to face which is always a plus.
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Having someone familiar there with you might make college seem a little less daunting and scary.
Now let’s talk about the cons:
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You might miss out on a lot of social events or making new friends because you and your boo just wanna spend every living moment together.
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You have someone else’s feelings to worry about which means that sometimes you might not be able to go out partying with all your single friends because, well, you know relationships…
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It can be easy to allow your relationship to get in the way of priorities such as studying and classes. Sure, it’s all fun and games spending every night with your s/o watching Netflix, until you realize you have a midterm on Monday that you didn’t study for whatsoever.
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The struggle of finding a balance between a relationship, school, friends and maybe even a job.
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People change a lot in college which means that growing apart is definitely a possibility.
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If worse comes to worst and you and your s/o don’t work out, be prepared for awkward run ins around school.
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Breakups take an emotional toll on a person, which is the last thing you need when trying to balance school, friends and maybe even a job.
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You miss out on the freedom to date in college and go out on random fun dates with random suitors.
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You miss out on the chance to do a lot of self discovery and be a little selfish because you can. College is a time of irreplaceable freedom and perhaps one of the best times of your life.
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You still aren’t too sure what you want out of a relationship or really of the person you want to be, which makes it hard for a relationship to remain steady.