According to Business Insider, around 80% of people fail their New Year’s resolution by February. Despite this, everyone is still jumping at the idea of losing a few pounds or exercising more in 2019. And while the spark of enthusiasm is great, maybe we need to reevaluate what’s going to make us feel more fulfilled as individuals in the long-run.
And maybe it’s time to make a change with the type of people in your life.
Maybe there’s someone toxic in your life who is always giving back-handed compliments. Or maybe you have that friend who’s constantly bringing you down. Take a look at the people in your life and see who’s not contributing to your happiness. Here are some of the common individuals you might consider cutting out:
The Negative Nelson
Chances are, there’s more than one of these in your life. It’s so unfortunate cutting individuals like these out too, because you know that someone or something had to make them that way. And if you’re close enough with the individual, you probably even know why. However, if they’re bringing you down with them, it’s time to let them go. Just remember, you are the only person you are stuck with, so you can be selective about the people in your life. Choose people who build you up and celebrate your successes. Quit spending time with those who don’t and I can guarantee it’ll be a fresh breath of air.
The Finesser
You only get hit up by this friend when they need something from you– whether that’s a favor, when they want to borrow something or when they need advice. You are never the first person on their radar, perhaps you’re even the last. But you come in handy to them when they need someone who won’t say no. Clearly, they don’t value you as much as you value them. Know your worth and let them go.
The Ex
This should have been left in the past years ago. Just remember, you broke up for a reason. Even if you’re not trying to get back together with him/her, he/she still might be holding you back.
The Competitor
AKA the frenemy. It might be someone from your chemistry class, someone you’re acquainted with from a club you’re apart of… maybe it’s even your boyfriend’s ex-girlfriend. It’s time to forget about them. We are all on our own journeys and need to learn to focus on ourselves this year.
The Old You
You are growing every day. You aren’t the person you were last year. You aren’t the person you were last month. You’re probably not even the same person you were yesterday. Keep working to be the best version of yourself you can be and make sure to surround yourself with people who support that.