So I did promise you ladies that I would possibly share with you the process of rebounding from a hurtful relationship, and go over it I shall. Now, it is a misconception of many that this process is simple. Many believe that it is not even a process at all, but it most certainly is. Running into the arms of your ex’s best friend, or worse yet, running into to one of your own best friend’s arms for a quick rebound hookup is not the right first move. In order to get yourself ready for rebounding, you must first allow yourself enough time to be sure that the next guy you pick out isn’t just a rebound in the sense that we are all most accustomed to. Nobody wants to feel like they are simply your second best after you’ve ended a relationship, so if you are looking for just that quick pick-me-up hookup after the breakup, then at least make sure it is with someone who is not at all familiar with the situation or attached to you significantly in any way. Again, I’m not encouraging randomly shacking up after you’ve just ended a relationship, but if that’s what it’ll take to jumpstart your bounce-back then hey, who am I to judge? Just be smart about it.
Now, back to the fun stuff. Once you are at a good place with yourself again, and ready to dive back into the sea that is plentiful with available fishes, as we are so often told, don’t settle for just the gold. Go for the sharks. You’ve been through the ups and downs of a relationship and by now you should know that you deserve a much better breed than whomever that last fish was, so allow yourself that. Take the time to find someone who is right for you. They don’t necessarily need to meet all of your superstar expectations, but at least now you’ve got a concrete idea of some of the qualities you are not looking for in a partner. If this lucky new person is free and clear of all of those undesirable qualities that drove you away last time, you’ve already done yourself a huge favor.
Hopefully with these wise words in the back of your head you will be able to successfully hoist yourself out of that single-lady-rut and back into the world of the adorably cute gag-me-with-a-spoon on Valentine’s Day kind of couples. Swim freely in with the fish and don’t be afraid to mingle with the sharks. And if you are all bounced-back and happy as a clam with where you are in terms of not needing anyone else to fill the empty space in your fish bowl, then keep doing your single-lady thing.