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ICYMI: Alyson Stoner Pens Emotional “Coming Out” Letter

This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at BU chapter.

From Mike’s Super Short Show to Camp Rock and other classic Disney Channel shows, Alyson Stoner has always remained a beloved Disney Star for her pivotal supporting roles and impeccable dancing skills. And now, Alyson has become an inspiration for future generations of LGBTQIA kids by embracing her sexuality and not fearing what the world will think of it.

The letter begins with Alyson’s recollection of being around a woman that left her breathless. We all know that stereotypical butterflies scenario where your brain melts away and you cannot think of cohesive things to say so you smile and laugh awkwardly. She stated that “I left the workshop and texted my mother and best friend, saying, “I met a woman today, I’m not sure who she is or what I’m feeling, but I think she’s going to be in my life for a very long time.” We all have those unexplainable moments where something happens and completely changes the trajectory of life. “I fell in love with a woman,” she said.

Despite the positive connotation of the letter, Alyson had mental pitfalls en route to coming out. She mentions therapy and explains that “I spent years — not months or weeks or days, but years — trying to identify the source of my attraction to her. Like many, I had internalized some of the harmful beliefs and misconceptions about LGBTQ people and identities.”

Like many LGBTQIA+ people, Alyson attempted to find the root of being attracted to women like it was a traceable symptom of a larger issue. She mentions that “Certain pastors and community members tried to reverse and eliminate my attraction to her. I pursued physical relationships with men to convince myself that my love for her was just a spiritual battle attacking my character and discernment.” Her spiritual beliefs coupled with her mental trials and tribulations made accepting herself a challenge.

This challenge became amplified when it came to growing her career. Alyson said that “Some people in the industry warned me that I’d ruin my career, miss out on possible jobs, and potentially put my life in danger if I ever came out.”

In spite of these warnings and the beliefs that the Church and the world tried to push upon her, Alyson Stoner came out beautifully and has become an exemplar for embracing yourself – no matter what your sexuality is.

“Whatever your identity, you are lovable and wonderful and enough. I’m on the other side of some of these battles internally, but it’s still a challenge in the outside world. It’s OK. Dare to be yourself anyway.” – Alyson Stoner.


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Writers of the Boston University chapter of Her Campus.