From a very young age, we are often reminded of the big changes we will experience as we grow up. The phrase, “as one chapter closes, a new one opens,” is not unfamiliar to many, especially when preparing to move away from home for college. I grew up in a relatively small town in Canada, went to a high school of about 500 kids total, and have always been very close to my family. So, when it came time to start packing up my childhood bedroom and move to a new country to start my college education at BU, I was excited but also very nervous.
Thoughts like, “will I make friends like the ones I have at home?” and “will I be able to do my laundry without my mom telling me how to?” ran rampant in my mind as I started this new chapter. I’d never lived away from home before, and I certainly found the adjustment difficult in my first month.
Now a sophomore, I’m able to navigate feeling homesick in ways that have allowed me to find my place on campus and in Boston. Whether you’re from the other side of the world or an hour’s drive away, it is perfectly normal to feel homesick. However, it’s important not to let it hold you back from all the new and exciting experiences coming your way in college.
- It is okay not to call home every single day
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When I first moved into my dorm, and my parents had left, I felt like I had to call them every day. This helped me feel better when I was at my most homesick during the first week of classes, but it did lead to feeling somewhat guilty on the days I was extra busy or simply just forgot. Try to remind yourself that you are entering a new and busy time in your life where independence is at the forefront of it all. Your family will love hearing from you whenever you call, but remember that that doesn’t mean you’re a disappointment on the days that you don’t.
- Talk to someone about how you are feeling
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When a wave of homesickness falls on your shoulders, it can be very easy to feel like you are all alone. However, there are tons of other kids going through the exact same thing who probably feel similar to how you’re feeling. Talking about it can make you feel better and might benefit those around you as well. You can look to friends, roommates, residence life, and even your family; someone is always willing to lend a helping hand!
- Try new things & do what makes you happy
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There are so many opportunities on a college campus for you to get involved in an activity or club that you’ll enjoy! Whether it’s related to your studies, athletics, or a creative outlet, joining something that creates routine and fun in your daily schedule can be the perfect distraction from homesickness. It can be scary to try new things; always remember that there is a place for you — you just have to go out there and find it!
Growing up is scary, but when you embrace the unfamiliar, it is such a rewarding experience. Missing your old life is a natural part of adulting, but just because it is old doesn’t mean it is gone or forgotten. Do what works best for you in navigating all the different emotions that come with moving away from home.
You’ve got this!
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