It’s the first week back in college– which for everyone moving back to campus can be really overwhelming. Change is hard. I know I really struggle with home sickness when I come back to campus. I find when I am feeling this way, I tend to push my friends away and spend more time on my own. I am definitely not an expert on how to deal with these feelings, but here is some advice and things that I do to help cope and adjust to college life.
Get Involved
I find that in college we have SO MUCH free time, especially during syllabus week when there isn’t much homework. Don’t get me wrong, free time is important to relax and take time for yourself, but I find when I am feeling homesick, spending too much time alone just makes me get in my head and miss home. Spending time with friends on campus, joining organizations and visiting Boston helps remind me why I love this school so much and why I chose to move so far away from home. Bentley is a magical place, so reminding yourself of that when you get back to campus is so important.
Call Home
Talking to those who remind me of home at least once a week is so helpful. Family, friends, mentors, etc. can be such a resource for those of you feeling homesick. These are the people who know the most about me, know how to make me feel better instantly, and can talk about the things that I am missing. I feel connected to home when I talk to these people, so, if you feel like you need a recharge throughout the day, maybe just give someone a quick call as you walk in between classes or when you have some spare time.
Self-Care Habits
Getting into a routine and prioritizing myself is always so helpful when I am feeling off and missing home. Regular exercise, bed routine, healthy eating, skincare etc. Whatever works for you! If you don’t know what that is yet, maybe try some of these things out. It makes me feel productive and overall, much more positive here on campus!
TALK ABOUT IT
I always find bottling it up and being sad on my own helps nobody. Talk to friends on campus, friends at home, anyone who you feel would understand. People at Bentley are amazing and are almost always willing to be a shoulder you can lean on. Lean on those shoulders!!! We are stronger together than we are alone so don’t try to fight all of your battles by yourself.
Bentley resources
Finally, Bentley has so many resources with staff far more knowledgeable than me who you can talk to or work with such as the counseling center, the CARE team, the multicultural center, the spiritual center and more who can help you work through everything you are feeling.
I hope this helps <3 This is just what works for me, not for everyone, but I wanted to share in case anyone is feeling the same.