Everyone has faced that daunting moment of making a big decision in a relationship. Most Collegiettes™, I’m sure, gather advice from those closest to them: friends, family, and… random male strangers on buses (don’t knock it ’till you’ve tried it).
But as for my roommate and me, we have found four people we consider to be the ultimate relationship consultants. They have heard and seen it all before. Their wisdom and experience only serves to help us. The slight issue? They happen to be fictional characters.
Sex and the City, a show spanning six seasons and two movies, follows the lives of Carrie, Miranda, Charlotte, and Samantha (you hopefully already know this) as they take on the daily challenges of the female population. Sure, the show has tremendous entertainment value, but with all the heartaches, marriages, babies, and men coming and going from Samantha’s bedroom, there are valuable lessons to be learned as well.
Here are three of my favorite lessons, but remember, they will serve you even better if you have the perfect pair of shoes to wear!
1. If it doesn’t feel right, it’s probably because it isn’t.
For those fans of the show, most are familiar with the Carrie-Aiden relationship. Aiden is the total package (plus he has the cutest dog ever), and when he asks Carrie to marry him she initially says yes. However, lingering doubts remain in her mind, culminating in an epic breakdown in the most horrendous wedding dress that has ever existed (truthfully I would want it off too). If you’re having lukewarm feelings for a guy, it’s best to be upfront about it and let him go. Even if he’s great, you don’t want to hurt him, or yourself, by pretending it’s something it’s not.
2. The classic stand-by: “He’s just not that into you.”
Long before the book, the movie, or the domination of the phrase in every female’s vocabulary, it was a line in Sex and the City. For Miranda, in fact, it is a line that represents complete liberation from the constant questioning of the operation of the male mind. As witnessed in the clip below, as much as we (and our friends) love to make excuses for men’s seeming lack of interest, the truth is that it is usually much more obvious than we care to admit. So he doesn’t call or text? Move on and find someone who truly values you.
3. At the end of the day, know who is important.
With all the stresses in life, it’s easy to get caught up in little issues and to forget the most important relationships of all: the ones you have with friends and family. No matter who is popping in and out of your life (or in Samantha’s case, bed), be sure to allocate some time for the people who are there for you (say when your fiancé leaves you at the altar with a huge hairpiece that happens to be a bird on your head). Try and set aside some time every week (restaurant gossip session optional) to both catch up and be there for those that will always be recurring characters.