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This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at ASU chapter.

As someone who avoids conflict at all costs, I find myself pleasing people way too often without worrying about myself. Whether it’s my roommates or my family, I am always working towards making everyone feel as comfortable as possible. However, this is not the most truthful when it comes to political views.

Let’s get one thing straight, I’m not political at all. I’m not very opinionated either, which makes arguments tough because I don’t fight back. However, my family is the closest thing to me and I still find myself being uncomfortable around them mainly because of their political views.

I am more of a blue-sided gal, while my family is more red-sided, but that doesn’t stop me from loving them. Granted, we don’t have the same political views, but we are related by blood. While they are from a small town and don’t see a lot of the brutality, discrimination, and profiling that I do, I still have to respect them. The same should go for you, as well.

Hear me out. You might have a significant other or parent or whoever that is really near and dear to your heart, but they have differing political views. I can relate to you in that every political conversation involves tension and a mental struggle because everyone is stuck in their own ways. Please keep in mind that everyone is entitled to their own opinion, no matter how variant they are. If you’re questioning yourself, please don’t hesitate to ask someone for help and to explain something. That was something that I had to learn when I finally moved out on my own.

When you’re alone, you develop a  unique sense of self and practically discover someone new deep inside. Whether that’s new clothes that you haven’t worn before or riding your bike  or scooter. The glory is that you are able to develop your own opinions as well. The one tough aspect is ensuring you are educated so you don’t say the wrong thing or offend anyone. Here are some tips that I have used in the past:

Ask your Friends

If you have friends that are informed on politics, please reach out to them with any questions or confusion. I am confident that they would be happy to talk to you about their views and allow you to share your own as well. If they’re a true friend, they will support you no matter what side you align with.

Avoid Asking Parents

Why? Because they are the first people to instill any preexisting beliefs without realizing. They will do everything possible to keep you within the familial ideology

Take an online quiz

Taking a quiz may help with developing your political vocabulary as well as help you to understand the perspectives of each party. 

I know that the list is short and sweet, but keeping the options limited  allows you to find your immediate resources and establish a primary option when needing an answer to your question. Maintaining neutrality  between you and your family members or significant other helps with avoiding conflict and provides a  way to understand each other. It also drives out room for uneasy feelings or walking on eggshells. If you are a confrontational person, please be respectful when approaching certain situations and people with your views and opinions.

JP (they/them/theirs) is a graduate student at DePaul who enjoys reading books, playing guitar, and telling bad jokes. When they're not behind a book or getting a tan from their computer screen, catch them planning their next tattoo. Check their 'gram: @hanson.jp