I Did A Thing: I’m Struggling With Self-Love

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@wantingtolovemyself: Recently I’ve been struggling with self love and being happy in my body. I used to not have a problem with this but it appears to me that my body does not look like it used to, even though I work out consistently and eat healthy. I was wondering if anyone could help me figure out ways to start loving myself again. Thank you so much!!

@helpmehc: Let me just first say that what you’re going through is completely normal. We always have periods of ups and downs when one day we look in the mirror and feel great, and other days we’re wishing we were someone else. The good thing is, there are ways to combat these negative feelings.

First, take a break from social media—even if just for a day. You’d be surprised at the effect social media has on how we feel about ourselves. And you know why? Because comparison is the thief of joy. And when we start to see someone who we think looks better or is doing better than us, we start question our own self. Remember, no one is perfect. NO ONE. And that is OK! Next, take some time to journal and write down all the things that are positives in your life, things you’re grateful for, and those things that you love about yourself. I’m sure you’ll find that list is neverending. Take a minute to just take it all in. Then, find some time to meditate. Believe it or not, meditation is a great way to center yourself and take time to be with you.

When battling moments where I’m lacking self-love and being happy in my body, I also find that self-dates are amazing. So take yourself on a date–go someplace you love and fear no judgement from anyone. Take that time to appreciate all that you are, in the skin that you’re in. Lastly, I want to you to look in the mirror and tell yourself: I am enough. I am enough! You know why this is so important? Because you ARE enough! Nothing and no one should make you feel otherwise.

YOU ARE ENOUGH. YOU ARE ENOUGH. YOU ARE ENOUGH!