I tend to treat first dates sort of like job interviews and end up coming off as too stiff — how can I learn to act more flirty and less formal on a first date?
By putting yourself in what my friend and colleague, Ryan Clauson, calls “Peak State.” Get sound rest the night before you are going out. Eat healthy. Work out earlier that day or at least walk or run some. Put on clothes you love and that make you feel highly attractive. Do NOT over make up. Listen to some upbeat music that makes you feel relaxed, rejuvenated and on top of the world and most importantly remember that it is ONLY A DATE.
If it doesn’t work out, there are plenty more men out there who will want to date you. Women often place so much pressure on themselves to be the “perfect date” or to “not blow it” that they fall into a sense of analysis paralysis and can’t enjoy the date or the person they are with. Believe me, no matter how you think you are feeling, multiply it by 10 and you have the way the guy feels. He had to ask, probably plan the date, will have to avoid being seen as a “guy” and if he tries to get physical with you in any way, he may be seen as overly aggressive. If he doesn’t show any attraction to you whatsoever, he may be judged as not interested or repulsed.
Isn’t dating fun?!