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Why Do the Men on ‘The Bachelorette’ All Think it’s Okay to Come Running Back After They’ve Been Sent Home?!

As in any The Bachelorette two-night finale, this season’s was filled with drama and wow –  we need to talk about Ben coming back to the show.

Ben’s been my personal favorite this whole season. From starting important conversations about eating disorders to just being generally perfect, I was rooting for him the whole time. That’s why I was so excited, albeit pretty confused, when he came back to the show after being sent home.

Ben and Tayshia had great chemistry, but he struggled with opening up to her. It was understandable, TBH, considering he’s not just opening up to Tayshia but to all of Bachelor Nation. So while I’m glad Ben finally worked up the courage to tell Tayshia he loves her, it felt unfair to throw a wrench in her plans so close to a proposal, with only Zac and Ivan left in the running.

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While Ben is by no means Bennett, and I truly don’t believe he had manipulative intentions when coming to talk to Tayshia, I don’t think it was fair to her for him to have waited as long as he did to tell her the truth. Ben could have told Tayshia he loves her during their conversation when he was sent home, the night after, or any other point in time that would have been better than the one he chose. Really, he should have just told her on their hometown date and saved everyone the frustration! 

The timeline of his return should have been better thought out. At least when Bennett made his return to tell Tayshia he loves her there wasn’t an immediate proposal on the line. Don’t get me wrong, I loved seeing Ben again. But I felt really bad for Zac and Ivan, who’d been through so much already and now had to compete with Ben once again. The decision to let him come back really made me question whether the producers really wanted Tayshia to find love or if they wanted a dramatic episode. 

While it makes for great drama, Chris Harrison has to tell these contestants “no” when they beg him to come back to the show! Luke Parker should not be the one setting precedents here, just saying.

Carli is a 2022 grad of the Fashion Institute of Technology in New York City and served as the style section editor for Her Campus. After being a national style writer for Her Campus, she launched Her Campus FIT. A born and raised Jersey Girl, she is a huge Bruce Springsteen fan. In her spare time she loves running, jamming to Taylor Swift, and tracking down the best burgers. Find her on Instagram @carliannescloset.