When I was in high school this one guy really liked me and asked me out quite a few times. I lied to him and to myself by saying that I wasn’t interested in being more than friends. Now that we’re both sophomores in college, and in different states, I keep on thinking about him and it confuses me. I still have feelings for him. He now has a girlfriend, which I only know about because I saw his relationship status on Facebook. I want to let him know that I liked/still like him as more than a friend but I don’t know if at this point it is appropriate. Will I ever have another chance with him?
Hi Doll,
I’m not a fortuneteller, so I don’t know if you’ll ever have a chance with him again. I don’t think it’s the right time to tell him that you liked him/still like him, because he has a girlfriend and is therefore unavailable. This is more about you and your relationship with yourself, so let’s look at that.
The lesson here, as it seems to me, is that you wish you would have told him that you were into him when you had the chance. What held you back? Were you scared of your feelings? Didn’t trust your desire? Were afraid of being someone’s girlfriend and how that might change your other relationships? Whatever the reasons, I bet they will come up again when you’re interested in another guy. This is about refining your relationship with intimacy. Do you let yourself have other things in life that you want? Where do you censor yourself?
At this point, I think it’s best to let him go and wish him well. If you’re destined to be together, you will encounter each other sometime when you’re both single and you’ll feel the attraction if it’s still there. You’ll know — so trust yourself. It’s time to set him free and set yourself free to discover who else and what else is out there- most importantly in there- in order to be available for the life that is awaiting you. I promise, there are no mistakes and your path is full of lessons, mysteries and joy. Let yourself have it and let me know how it goes.
All my love,
Ali