Dear Agony Aunt,
I’ve been into this guy for the last two years and our relationship (or non-relationship) is very erratic. We hookup, try to work at a relationship, fail miserably, quit being friends and then repeat the cycle all over again. I’m not quite sure what to do with the whole affair because I think I’m in love with him and I’m reluctant to work at any other relationships.
Lost in Relations
Dear Lost in Relations
There’s an old proverb that says…actually I don’t know a proverb for this one. What I do know however is that you are obviously a mess. Sort yourself out. If you think that this is a relationship that has potential but isn’t realizing this potential then it is definitely because both (or one of you) just isn’t ready. You also have to make sure that you are not deluding yourself. Maybe the dude just wants to hookup, maybe he wants to be friends. Whatever the case, a two-year non-relationship is not healthy.
The Agony Aunt
Dear Agony Aunt
Valentine’s Day is coming up soon and I’m really set on having things work out with this guy that I’ve been friends with for the past semester. The thing is I’m not sure how to let him know that I’m interested without coming off as desperate?
Waiting for Valentine
Dear Waiting for Valentine,
You need to ask yourself a couple of questions and answer them sincerely. In the past semester, has it at all seemed like he might be interested in you? What kind of guy does he seem like and would he be looking for the same things as you? If you’ve hung out consistently all semester and it doesn’t seem like he wants to do anything more than ‘be friends’ you might just have to set your sights elsewhere. Even if you think he might be interested in you (and just doesn’t know it) you need to make sure that you are clear with yourself on what you want and what he can offer you. If all the lights are green, go!
The Agony Aunt