What do you consider a friend to be—is it someone you can tell everything to or someone you have sleepovers with? Someone who you were told to play with as kids and just clicked, someone who you did homework with or shopped with, or someone you can’t imagine your life without? Webster defines a friend as a favored companion, an acquaintance, someone who is not hostile, or someone you’re attached to by affection or esteem. So if this is what serves as a friend, when did the definition of a friend become skewed to a person that knows every detail of your life?
What do you consider your friend to be when they’re talking behind your back or being catty to you for NO apparent reason—does this make your friend into your newfound enemy or, the contemporary term, “frenemy”? Urban Dictionary defines a frenemy as “The type of “friend” whose words or actions bring you down. (Whether you realize it as intentional or not) The type of friend you ought to cut off but don’t because…they’re nice… good …you’ve had good times with them”. So if this is the definition of a frenemy, what causes you to keep this negative person in your life—is it some type of attachment you have to them? To be honest, it usually takes a hellish ordeal with this person, for someone to consider ending the friendship. What do I consider a friend to be?—someone who is empathetic, understanding, honest, upfront, the kind of person who will give me the realest maybe “meanest” opinion but sparing me from being the conversation pieces. Honestly, who am I to throw my two cents in, and say what I consider a friend worthy of keeping to be, but answer this for yourself is your friend the one being honest with you and taking your feelings into account OR your friend the type who overlooks your situation and doesn’t consider your feelings?