It is a new week and we’re back with our next set of questions and answers from yours truly. I am more than elated that you all have been submitting thought-provoking questions. This week, I will be answering some more questions that I hope will be both helpful and beneficial to everyone in some way. With that being said, let’s just get to it.
Anonymous Asked: Hey, Izzy. I have a friend who I have really come to enjoy going out with, but I’m starting to realize she may not have the same values as me and we don’t share much in common with priorities and morals. Is it understandable to break off the friendship? And if yes, how so?
It’s understandable if you do not necessarily want to have a friendship with someone who doesn’t have the same values as you do. Some people do not want to keep company that isn’t on the same mental or life level as they may be. It all depends on how you truly feel about it, since you shouldn’t pretend that your friendship with her is genuine if that is how you truly feel. In my opinion, I don’t think that you should just drop the friendship if you really do enjoy her company. I have friends that have different morals and values as me, but that doesn’t affect our friendship. As long as they do not hinder your growth as an individual, I don’t see the problem.
You also do not know what influence you may have on her as a friend. People go through stages in life and some are not good stages. Just because someone may not be where you are, it doesn’t mean that they don’t have the potential to be where you are one day. If you feel like the friendship is real and beneficial, I encourage you to stick it out. If you are willing to break off the friendship, are you really her friend? If you honestly feel that there’s nothing to save, then do what you have to do. But it seems that you value the friendship simply because you submitted this question. Good and loyal friends are difficult to find these days, so be wise and build up your friends. Lastly, be as honest as possible with your friend about everything that concerns you. She has no choice but to respect you for your honesty as a friend.
Anonymous Asked: What do you think of dating someone who isn’t from the same financial situation as you? Is it the person with the better money situation’s job to pick up the tab (always) in the relationship? How would you address this?
I personally do not think that it is a problem [dating someone who isn’t from the same financial situation]. It all depends on what you expect when you enter situations with others. I know some people look for a person who has good financial standing – and there’s nothing wrong with that. We all have our demands and standards as individuals. I do believe that it’s never good to flaunt what you have, if you are dating someone that may have less than you. This is something that depends on your tolerance when it comes to dating. If I like a woman, her financial situation doesn’t matter (especially because I am in college). The college life is all too real out here!
In regards to the second question, I don’t think that it’s the person with the better financial situation’s responsibility, unless the person paying really doesn’t have an issue with it. You definitely don’t want to date someone who just mooches and expects you to always pay for everything. The best way to address this issue is to make it known that you will not be paying for everything all of the time, or you can both split the bill every now and then. It’s nice to treat and to be treated also. I think that both people bringing something to the table is a great thing, even if they are in different financial situations.
Anonymous Asked: How do guys actually feel bout buns? Like buns in a girls hair? I heard they don’t like them.
I can’t speak for all guys. I’ve heard some guys say that they actually think it’s attractive to see a girl with her hair in a bun. Girls on campus wear buns in their hair during the day. One of my friends does it all the time during school hours – and it doesn’t make her less attractive (she is beautiful, fine and sublime). On a serious note, buns don’t really bother me. I am not sure how other guys may feel about it. I’m sure it’s not that big of a deal. If a woman wants to put her hair up, then so be it.
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