Break ups suck, but unfortunately they are a part of nearly every collegiette’s life. Whether this is for first break up, or your 10th (we aren’t counting!), it probably hurts like hell, so here’s some tips to making the best of your breakup.
1. Distract Yourself
You might want to curl up in your bed in your sweatpants for the entire week watching The Notebook, scrolling through all of your pictures together, and stalking social media, but none of that is going to make you feel better. Change your relationship status, change your profile picture, and then leave social media alone for a while. Find something else to do that will take your mind off of the situation, whether it’s going shopping, reading a book, getting a manicure, going to the gym, or doing homework, and sooner than later you’ll forget how you were feeling beforehand.
2. Rely on Your Friends and Family
Don’t be ashamed to ask someone for some help or support if you need it, or just spend some time with other people you love. I’m quite certain at least one of your close friends has experienced a break up, and likely your brother, sister, mom, dad, and cousin have too. Whether you decide to have a marathon games night with your fam or enjoy wine and cheese with the girls, being with the ones you love is sure to help you heal.
3. Make a Change
While I’m not much for the whole “New Year, New Me,” a break up is the perfect opportunity to make a change in your life. If you’ve always wanted to cut your hair short, try out that new trendy hair colour you’ve been obsessing about, change your style, join or try a new sport, club, hobby, anything: do it! Not only will this provide a great distraction from your heartbreak, but it will make you feel like you are starting a new chapter in your life, and will likely boost your confidence too. WIN, WIN, WIN!
4. Remember the 3 Cs
Yes, that’s right: chocolate, carbs, and comfort food. Will a chocolate milkshake make you feel even a little bit better? How about a heaping bowl of creamy, gooey mac and cheese? Whatever it is, this is definitely the time to splurge on your favourite treat. Whip up your favourite snack and you’ll instantly feel a little bit better.
5. Relax
You’re likely stressed, upset, confused, and sad about your recent status change. Stress can do horrible things to the human body. Find a way to relax and distress, whatever this may be. Take a bath, get a massage, have a spa night, go to yoga, write a journal, or take a nap. Remember who the most important person in your life is, YOU, so treat yourself well.
6. Give Yourself Time
There’s no “normal” time period to get over a break up. Everyone is different. Knowing your emotions is very important during this time. Don’t try to rush your emotions, but don’t let them linger too long. Give yourself a set time period to mourn and then try to move on. Trust me, you can do it. You WILL be okay.
Life’s hard sometimes, but everything gets better. Try not to let your break up get the best of you by making the best out of your breakup. Smile; there are other fish in the sea!