As Valentine’s Day rolls around again we begin to see the big fluffy teddy bears and the sappy Instagram post of people confessing their love for one another. There are some people out there that absolutely dread this day. Why do they dread this day? Well, maybe because they are single. Then, you are left to ask, “Well, why are you single?” The only reasonable answer I can think of is because our generation does not know the difference between courting and talking (or because they just think it’s a stupid holiday).
Over the past couple of years, our generation has come up with this debacle known as talking. And I do not mean just having a casual conversation with someone. In actuality the way we use the term “talking” does not actually have a clear meaning to it, and that is why some people end up in “situationships”. Some would define talking as being loyal to someone, but yet not fully committed, and this is where these situationships come about.
“I’m interested in you and four other people, but you can’t be interested in anyone else but me. Oh, and I don’t want a relationship.” Sounds absurd right? That’s just how some people do it nowadays though. When talking to someone, boundaries are not set, and this leaves room for miscommunication. Furthermore, talking will leave you with temporary feelings.
Courting is the total opposite of talking. When it comes to courting, boundaries are clear from the beginning. In addition to that, there is no room for vagueness. You may have your ups and downs when courting, but trust me it is nothing like a situationship.
Most of the time it is difficult for us girls to find relationships because all guys want to do is “talk” and waste our precious time. Today’s generation feels as if talking is courting, and I feel as if music has had a big influence on that. Over time our music has gone from being “I just want to take it nice and slow” to “Chicken wings and fries we don’t go on dates”, but I’ll save that topic for a later time.
If our generation continues to “talk” and have these situationships, courting will be a thing of the past. So don’t fret, one of these days you will get your fluffy teddy bear and or have you and your significant other made into a meme for #RelationshipGoals. Until then continue to enjoy the single life and have fun. When you do find that special someone “Go steady” as they would say in the old days. You can’t expect to find love aka get shot by Cupid if you’re constantly a moving target.