Here’s the deal.
You’ve been exploring your sexuality since puberty. You’ve been figuring out who and what gets you hot and bothered. And that could be a lot of things, from shirtless Collin Firth to BDSM pornography (but like, ethically made with absolute consent, you know) and it’s all good, whatever it is! Maybe you’ve lived your life feeling something of a disconnect from your sex, like your vagina is a confusing cavern and the clitoris a mythical being only somewhat attached to you. Or maybe you absolutely are about your sex life, and feel completely in control of everything down south, you know what turns you on and gets your gears turning.
And you’re wondering. Should I spend the money on a vibrator? Yes.
No matter where you stand on your sex life, and how comfortable you are with yourself, a vibrator will either change you completely, or just enhance everything you have going. A vibrator will give you complete control of your own feelings, and allow you to explore what you are interested in, and what will bring you sexual bliss. And when or if you have a sexual partner, you will have a greater understanding of your own self to make sure both of you get the most out of your experience.
Where do I go for a vibrator?
Most sex shops will have friendly and informative employees who would be happy to help, and make sure you have a low-stress and anxiety-free experience (no matter how shy you are about the purchase you’re making.) Blue Boutique is a local Utah brand with helpful staff and a great selection. Black Velvet is a queer-owned company on State street with knowledgeable staff.
What next?
I can’t tell you how to jerk off, but I can tell you this should be a shame-free experience (unless like, you’re into that) and a time of comfortable learning. There’s nothing wrong with an understanding of your anatomy and your sexual pleasure. It isn’t easy to unlearn a lifetime of shame and misogyny, but it’s important to do what you can for yourself, because you deserve it.
Good luck, and happy masturbating!