There is something particularly magical about the connection between a mom and a daughter. It’s a duo like no other and there simply aren’t enough words in in existence to describe it, but let’s try anyway. She’s your first role model, your very first friend and the person you desperately wish to be when you grow up. She sets the standards from the beginning by showing you the unconditional love that you deserve. Moms are the kind of superheroes that seem to make all the world’s problems get smaller just by being around, but they don’t get the recognition received by the Avengers or Justice League. They have this insane amount of knowledge about pretty much anything you can think of, big or small. At what point in one’s life does a girl acquire this necessary mom know-how? Somehow they know how to fix that hole in your sweater, how to find every lost thing, how long you should put something in the microwave, make a balanced meal, how to know when a cantaloupe is ripe, what setting the washing machine should be on for that new shirt, how to schedule appointments, how to get out that impossible stain, and how to answer life’s toughest questions. Here are some things that indicate that your mom just might be your very best friend:
1) She is a safe place to go and the person you come to in any/all of these situations:
You just got the best news ever and you want her to be excited with you. You had the absolute worst day in the history of the world and you just want to complain and possibly cry for no particular reason. You are exhausted and want her to tell you that you deserve a nap. You want her affirmation about a decision you are stressing about.
2) There’s absolutely nothing that a mom hug can’t fix.
I’m not sure if this has been scientifically proven yet, but if not, I’m sure the research is on its way. A mom hug means everything is going to be okay, this is not the end of the world, tomorrow is another day, and you are loved. It says everything you need to hear without any words at all. Hugging my mom is the very first thing I do when I go home for the weekend and it feels like all the stress of the week melts away in her arms.
3) Even in college she knows the little details of your day…because you call her 4+ times a day.
My recent phone call activity in college, pretty much just looks my moms name over and over again. Whenever I think of something that has happened in the past 3 hours since the last time we talked that she just HAS to know about, I can’t resist. I also ask her every single possible question about her day thus far, even it’s it 9 a.m. What are you doing right now? What are you doing later today? What is dad doing? How was your Bible study with the gals? What are you making for dinner tonight? What are we having for dinner this weekend when I come home? What’s the tea? What’s episode of Jane the Virgin did you get to last night? The questions are endless and she gladly answers them all whether she has time to or not, just for the sake of a good mom and daughter chat.
I get very offended when my mom doesn’t answer my phone calls. Like hello it’s me the light of your life calling for the 3rd time today to tell you about the chicken tenders I just ate pls answer
— Toni (@Toni_Zappia) October 4, 2018
I’m not sure why we think our moms want to know exactly what we’ve eaten today and every thought that has gone through our heads, but they listen anyway and that’s all that matters. Walking between classes, riding on a bus, and driving to club meetings can get boring and lonely, so calling mom who will undoubtedly pick up the phone is sure to provide some entertainment.
me calling my mom from college to tell her what kind of sandwich I ate for lunch https://t.co/5mGdbiPBR2
— meg (@meganjewell35) July 12, 2018
If you can relate to the tweets above, it is likely that your mom is your best friend.
4) She knows ALL the tea. She’s a good listener whether the information you are sharing is relevant to her life in any way.
Telling your mom all the tea in your life is good for so many reasons. She will listen to your rant no matter how long it lasts. She doesn’t know most of the people involved, so it’s not like she’s going to tell anyone. If you’re annoyed with someone, she’s annoyed with that person too, even if she doesn’t know them from Adam. She wants all the tea about that cute boy you like. She provides simple advice for the complicated drama and doesn’t try to fix things if she knows you just want to say them out loud. She’s a secret keeper and a never-ending source of wisdom. We as college girls know, all the moms know ALL the tea.
5) She has a million nicknames for you…
And for some reason or another you answer to all of them, no matter how ridiculous they are. Moms get a free pass to call you whatever ridiculous pet name they want because well…they gave birth to you. Does your mom ever do that thing where she reminds you of how she gave birth to you when she wants you to do something for her, or is that just mine? I mean, it seems like a fair reason.
6) She is fiercely protective and you know she always has your back.
All moms have this instinct. They seem to know when trouble is coming before you even do. They can spot a fake friend or a bad decision from a mile away and they are the first to swoop in and pick up the pieces when everything seems to be falling apart. They are on your team even when you might not deserve it. I don’t know about you, but I have grown up knowing that if someone tries to mess with me or one of my siblings, my mom will take care of it. Teachers in high school, ex-friends and random rude strangers have definitely regretted messing with me because when those momma bear claws come out, there’s no stopping them. If your mom is your biggest advocate, you know exactly what I’m talking about.
7) She’s exactly the kind of person you want to be when you grow up.
Moms are graceful, forgiving, comforting and hard-working. They know how to balance and juggle a million things at once. They put others before themselves and make it through the impossible over and over again. I want nothing more than to be this level of strong and selfless someday. If you want to be just like your momma when we finish doing this whole growing up thing, make sure to tell her. She deserves to know.
8) She keeps up with pop culture and likes things because you like them and wants to be able to talk about them.
My mom and I DM each other funny tweets. She tags me in hilarious and tear-jerking videos on Facebook. She knows the latest Harry Styles update before I do and texts it to me because she knows I am in class. She watches all the most popular television shows, so we can discuss the newest episode each week. She reads magazines and articles and watches award shows. She sends gifs, emojis, and I never have to explain text lingo to her. This is just an example of moms who go the extra mile to love you and the things you love.
9) She’s your person.
The cool thing about growing up is that your relationship grows and shifts until you’ve become best friends who also happen to be a mom and daughter. Whether its a trip to Target, lunch at Chicken Salad Chick, a night of board games, binge watching movies, or going for a walk around the neighborhood; everyday activities are more fun together than apart. She has your back when no one else does. You get into trouble together and solve the problems together. When you get yourself into a heap of trouble, she’s the one who takes your hand and leads you through the mess. She has loved you through your worst and helped you become your very best.
10) She’s your glue.
In every part of life, our moms are often the ones who hold us together. When our family is going through a tough situation and it feels like everything is falling apart, mom is the powerful force that holds it all—kinda like gravity. When our friends who we thought would always be around disappoint us, mom is the one who remains constant. When our heart is broken into a million different pieces, our moms patiently pick up all the little pieces and put it back together. Moms create a sense of wholeness. They establish that your siblings are your forever friends while you’re young, so that you stay that way into adulthood. They take care of the things that everyone forgets or no one else wants to do. They are the Elmer’s glitter glue that holds the mess altogether.
Moms rock. That’s really all there is to it. Being best friends with your own mama makes life so good and the scary parts of being a human a little less scary. How many of these 10 things did you relate to?
The connection between a mom and daughter is unlike any other in this crazy world. We would be utterly lost without their guidance, wisdom and grace. If you can relate to any or all of this list, it’s fair to say that your mom is pretty dang special. She goes far beyond her motherly responsibilities and treats you what a true friend looks like. If your heart is warm from all this mom talk, take this as a reminder to call her and say “I love you.” The amount of times we actually remember to say thank you is a fraction of what they deserve. Happy birthday, mom. You have been my best friend from the very beginning.