In a world ruled by social media, where #couplegoals dominate the Internet, it’s easy to feel self-conscious about being single, especially if you’re still a virgin. When asked, I’m not ashamed of saying that I’ve never been in a relationship and am still a virgin, but I do get self-conscious when people look at me as if I am a new life form or a mythical creature… like a unicorn. To all the single virgins out there, like me, I get it. I also want to have someone that makes my heart flutter and to whom I would willingly give my V-card. Maybe, just like me, you have a friend that makes fun of you because you’re still a virgin.
Well, I’m here to tell you that not only does your friend suck, but that you don’t have to stick to the first weirdo that calls you pretty and asks you out. Don’t lower your standards just because you don’t like the awkward stares or the mean jokes. You might be the only one in your friend group without a significant other, but you’re not the only one in the world. For example, Japan is the country with the lowest frequency of sexual activity. Don’t cave into peer pressure when a whole nation is perfectly happy being sexless.
Anyway, I’ve come to a hypothesis as to why we are still unicorns. We are a contradiction. We want to be in a relationship, but we also get scared when someone gets too close for comfort. We have this image of the type of person we want to be with, but it’s hard to find the person that fits our criteria.
Imagine this scenario (disclaimer: this actually happened). You meet someone that likes you, and you like them back, but then questions start flooding into your head.
Your mind goes on overdrive with so many questions and what-ifs that you just go with the most comfortable action: saying no and walking away.
That’s the sad part about us. We look too far into the future rather than enjoying the moment. Although our love life is depressing, it’s actually not that bad being a unicorn if you think about it. We tend to be the common sense among our friends that are drunk in love. Thanks to their many relationships, we know what we don’t want in one. We also know what to do when you get in a fight, and we have plenty of date ideas we’ve saved up. They also tell us about their many sex-capades, and we learn about how to flirt, pick up someone, some sexual positions, and safe hook-up spots.
Let’s not forget― we give good relationship advice. Our inexperience helps us see things objectively. Not to mention, we know what we want, and we won’t commit unless we’re 100% sure it will work out. Our priorities don’t revolve around someone else, and we’re also comfortable being alone, even when we say we don’t want to be. Remember, we’re a contradiction. But the fact remains that there is someone out there who will be so extraordinarily special that will manage to convince us we want them in our lives.