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This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at Manhattan chapter.

According to Chapman’s psychological theory on love languages, there are five ways people tend to show and receive love. These include words of affirmation, acts of service, gift-giving, quality time, and physical touch. It is important to learn your partner’s and your own love language to create a better bond and relationship with each other. 

Words of Affirmation

Hearing what you mean to someone or what they mean to you can really brighten a loved one’s day.  Leaving little reminders or compliments through sticky notes or sweet texts is a great way to show how one feels about their loved ones.

Acts of Service

Any small act of kindness can display love. This means going out of your way to help a person with tasks around the house or with their goals. An example of this is helping them with work or doing the dishes.

Gift Giving 

A person who values gift-giving is not necessarily into material items, but they want to be shown appreciation in a tangible way. Gifts are items that people can physically hold and be reminded of their favorite person. They do not have to be expensive; an example of this can be their sweatshirt or a bracelet they made for you to wear.

Quality Time

Any time with a specific someone can be comforting to just have and be around them. Quality time can be chilling on the couch or even planning memorable dates to look back on. Quality time is also about being able to live in the moment. An example of this can be having a random day where you or your loved one goes out of their way to plan a special date.

Physical Touch

Being physically close to your significant other shows you value their presence and touch. Though it can be, it does not necessarily mean showing overwhelming public displays of affection. However, holding hands and showing small gestures like an arm over your shoulder or playing with someone’s hair are small ways to show your love.

Explore the many quizzes online to help define your love language and help you understand what you need in a relationship!

Angelica is so excited to be the leader of this chapter as Campus Correspondent at Her Campus at Manhattan! Originally from the Jersey Shore, Angelica is a senior at Manhattan College studying communication with a concentration in journalism and a minor in French. Angelica is also Features Editor of the campus newspaper The Quadrangle, Fashion and Beauty Editor of Lotus Magazine, and Secretary of Alpha Pi Phi Sorority. She currently interns at The Port Authority of New York and New Jersey in the Brand and Customer Partnerships Department. You can hear Angelica hosting Soundtrack Sunshine, as she DJ’s for Manhattan College’s radio station WRCM. When she finds the time to breathe she likes to go for walks in Van Cortland Park, hang out at An Beal with friends, and watch her roomates dance at the basketball games. Angelica loves to write about anything from her deepest darkest feelings, trendiest clothes on sale, and hot button topics. She loves to share her experiences with all of you and hopes readers can take something from her insight. She encourages anyone with a story to tell to join Her Campus and take a chance on the best girl group in college! Happy reading :)