Being an adult is a unique experience, especially with the state of the world in the past few years. Being in college makes “adulting” an even weirder experience. You have to worry about school, passing your classes, working to afford necessities, studying, maintaining friendships and relationships, and so much more. If you are looking for some kind of guide to begin to figure it all out, you’ve come to the right place. That’s what this is: Emily’s Guide to Beginning Adulthood!
Tip #1: YOU CAN’T CONTROL EVERYTHING!
You have to take things as they are. You can try to prepare for obstacles because they can come out of nowwhere, but that doesn’t mean fixating on this potential and never leaving your house. Being prepared takes time. Cover your basics and the rest will come with experience. You never know what is going to come, so try to be okay with what happens and know that you can fix your problems!
Tip #2: Enjoy the good times!
Life is never easy, but having the right mindset can make it better! When we only focus on the negative things around us, we never stop to look at the good stuff. Enjoying the night off, hanging out with friends, making some yummy food, taking a nap, or snuggling up on the couch and watching a good movie are some of the small wins we can have. Taking time for yourself, relaxing, and enjoying the little things can turn your outlook on life around.
Tip #3: Call your mom and visit home.
In my case, my mom is my best friend. When I first moved out, I called my mom about five times a day! She gave me advice, calmed me down, let me get my emotions out, caught me up on what was going on at home, and made me feel loved. Visiting home is always a good idea too. Knowing the boundaries of how much time you should spend at home is always a good thing. Spending too much time there could make it feel like you never moved out. But spending too little time there can make you feel homesick whenever you have to go. Visiting home gives you a chance to calm down and appreciate where you came from.
Tip #4: EXPLORE!
If you recently moved out, explore the areas around you. Find your favorite restaurant, favorite park, and your favorite store to spend your down time in. Explore yourself! Who you are, what you like, what you don’t like, new hobbies, new friends, new foods, etc. We are young and haven’t had the time to figure out what this new stage of life means. SO TAKE THE TIME TO EXPLORE! Take risks and try new things — if you don’t like something, you can change it!
Adulting is very weird. Nothing seems to go to plan. Work hard, stay focused, enjoy the little things, and live life to the fullest!