Whether it was his fault, yours, or things are just weren’t working out anymore, a breakup will always hurt. After all the time you two spent together you might find that letting go is hard to do. The emotions you have of sadness, dissapointment, and anger will take you for a wild ride! Her Campus Utah is here to help and make sure you handle your breakup with grace. No matter how hard it is, try not to do these nine things.
1. Getting Wasted
You might have heard this a million times: alcohol is never the answer. A simple calculation of this is: problem + alcohol = bad combo. An article in BMC Medicine suggested that problematic alcohol intake may trigger depression. We aren’t saying not to have a glass a wine (or two), but just try not to drink the whole bottle or you might regret somethings in the morning!
2. An Extreme Makeover
Sometimes changes are good, but a drastic change following a breakup might not be such a good idea. When you are feeling emotional your decision making process might be impaired. So, try not to cut your hair super short or dye it blue without really thinking about it.
3. A Rebound Relationship
Hit the pause button, and don’t just jump into a new relationship. Some people do it because they feel like they need to have a partner to spend time with, and some do it to prove to their ex that they have already moved on. No matter what your intention is, give yourself time before you enter a new relationship. Being single for a while won’t hurt you!
4. Texting or Calling Your Ex
Stop all contact with your ex! This doesn’t mean you should cut him out of your life forever, just don’t contact him for a while or at least not until you know for sure that you have moved on. We know all know that strong desire you have to text your ex to express your anger or merely to say you miss him, but you shouldn’t do it. It will only make things worse. His response might hurt you, or worst case scenario you won’t get any response at all. Save yourself the heartache girl!
5. Social Media Stalking
You might find yourself checking your ex’s Facebook statuses, tweets, and photos on Instagram obsessively. If so, STOP! It won’t do you any good, and honestly you have better things to do than that!
6. Badmouthing Your Ex
This one is a huge no-no. I understand that you might be upset, and you want to tell everyone how badly you were treated or what kind of a jerk your ex was, but badmouthing him, especially in social media, is such a horrible thing to do. Even if he was indeed a jerk, you don’t want to stoop to his level. Be mature and keep it to yourself.
7. Going on and on about it.
Telling your friends and family about your breakup and how you are feeling is a good thing to do, but going on and on and on about it will definitely annoy them and it won’t help you get past it. Also, try not to pour your heart out to all your Twitter followers every single day either. Your business is your business.
8. Isolate Yourself from the World
After a painful breakup, there is nothing better than locking yourself in the room and crying, right? Wrong. It is okay to mourn over the death of your relationship, but don’t isolate yourself from the world. Accept invitations from your friends, and go out and have some fun! It will help keep your mind off the heartbreak.
9. Begging for Reconciliation
While it is true that some relationships are worth fighting for, begging your ex to get back with you after he already said no is not the best move. You don’t want to be rejected again and again bcause it will make the breakup hurt a lot worse!