Let’s face it, relationships are super tough. One of the many keys to a successful relationship is compromise, but compromising is a lot easier said than done. Being in a relationship requires you to know that it’s a two way street and you have to be able to understand situations from both sides but this doesn’t mean you have to stop standing for what you believe in. Although telling your partner no may cause them to react in a way that makes you feel bad, here are reasons why you can say it:
You are still an individual: Yes, being in a relationship can be a rewarding and great experience. No one wants to be alone forever. But at the end of the day, you only have yourself. No relationship is guaranteed to last forever. It is NOT selfish to make sure that you take care of yourself along the way. No matter where things end up, your mind needs to be in a healthy place to ensure happiness.
You shouldn’t let others dictate what gives you peace of mind: Listen to your gut. Trust your instincts. If you have a feeling that things are not what they seem, don’t let others force those thoughts out of your mind. Odds are, you have a reason for feeling that way. When things don’t seem right, you also reserve the right to address these things/ Communication is key to a successful relationship but by not discussing your feelings or actions you take away the most valuable part of a relationship, understanding.
Compromise has to happen on both ends: If you find yourself always being the one in the relationship that has to compromise, get out. Get out or find a partner who can understand how this whole relationship thing works. There are two of you, and it’s not unfair for one person to always get the short end of the stick. If you find that you are never compromising, it is time to make a change.
There are so many good feelings you experience when you are in a healthy relationship. But there is also so much you have to put in to have a healthy relationship. When you focus so much on trying to function as a whole, it can be easy to forget how important it is to function well as an individual. Losing sight of your needs can be easy when you care so much about the happiness of another person. But it is so important to take care of yourself. When you take care of yourself and acknowledge your most important individual needs, you allow yourself to be the best you can be when it comes to taking care of another person.