To me, long distance means that a couple isn’t close enough to be able to see each other everyday. Not that you should have see your SO everyday, but just that the option is there. Long distance relationships were never appealing to me. If you asked me three years ago if I would ever be in a long distance relationship I would have responded with a solid, “no”. Today, I have been with my boyfriend, who lives a little over an hour and a half away, for a little over a year.
I, personally, need face-to-face time in a relationship so the idea of a long distance relationship was always scary to me. The past year has been hard, I’m not gonna lie, but it has also been so amazing. The time we get together is special and I find myself so grateful for it. But our relationship has also taught me a few lessons:
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It is important to say how you feel directly, if not there is a lot of room for misunderstandings.
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Look for the good things, not the bad. If you focus on the hard stuff all of the time, you’ll miss the things that make your relationship great.
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Ignoring a problem doesn’t make it go away. Relationships of all kinds take work, and in a long distance relationship sometimes it’s tempting not to waste the time you have together arguing or focusing on the bad. But fixing your issues is always time well spent.
Long distance anything is difficult, especially when it involves being away from something you love. But it is absolutely doable, and worth it for the right person.