Forever Alone Syndrome

Dear Annie,
I’m starting to feel hopeless about my love life that has never happened. It’s my 4th year at UCR. One out of six of the girls in my family has been kissed-on a whim, and she’s the third oldest. None of us has ever been in a relationship before, officially and mutually. As of now, five of us are 20 years old and above. Is there hope for us girls at all??

As you saw in my last article (Never Been Kissed) there is hope! I’ve started to notice a pattern among young ladies. Many who have yet to experience any sort of romantic encounter are starting to panic and freak out. I don’t know if it’s the whole “the world is going to end in 2012!” craze that’s making people act weird, but there is no need to despair! Just because you’ve been single up until now, or are currently single, does not mean that you are going to be single for ever. 

In my last article, I wrote about the poor schmuck I got coerced into dating. But what I left out is the part where I did nothing to deny our “relationship” because I felt that I was “too old” and that it was time for me to experience my first kiss, and have my first boyfriend. I was thirteen at the time, and now when I look back at the situation I deeply regret it. In fact, I regretted it the minute his wet lips made contact with mine. My first kiss sucked, and I was left traumatized when it came to future relationships (not because of the kiss, but because I was too young to have had a “boyfriend”).

Don’t focus your time and energy on the fact that you and your siblings have yet to be romantically involved with anyone. We have it ingrained in our minds that if we haven’t been in a relationship or have yet to have had some sort of sexual experience that all hope is lost. When in fact it is not! Being in your twenties doesn’t classify you as old. You are not going to be single for the rest of your life! Nor will you become a crazy cat lady. There will be plenty of time for romance in your future. Focus on school, your family, and your goals, and I promise you that when you and your sisters least expect it, a great guy will come knocking at your door. But don’t take that expression literally, make sure to put yourself out there as well! It’s all about having self-confidence!  Things in life change all of the time, who knows what the future will bring. If you constantly have the mind set that you will never find love then you’re just setting yourself up for that exact situation. But if you learn to love and appreciate yourself, then you can be sure that better things will come.