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Dear Agony,
I have a severe knee problem when I walk my knee basically falls off the hinges. I`m considering pledging to a sorority, but being that they are highly active should I still pledge or will my knee hold me back?
Dear Knee Trouble,
You should consider waiting until your knee is healed before trying to be too active. You wouldn’t want to cause further injury by doing too much. If the injury is more permanent, you can consider getting a knee brace or even a wheelchair. If pledging is something you’re serious about then don’t let your knee hold you back!
Dear Agony,
When is it okay to let go of a guy?
Dear Confused,
Your relationship should never cause you more stress than happiness. If you find that your mood is bitter and you’re not happy anymore when you’re around this guy then you should break things off. In some situations these problems can be fixed without a breakup, but if you talk to your guy and the relationship doesn’t improve then it’s time to move on.
Dear Agony,
How long should you talk to a guy before you make it official and call yourself his girlfriend?
Dear Potential Girlfriend,
You can’t really put a time limit on this. You and the guy have to both want a relationship, and be ready to take your friendship to that next level. You two should definitely talk about making things official before you assume. I know the “so what are we?” talk can be awkward, but thinking someone is your boyfriend when he doesn’t feel the same is even worse!
Dear Agony,
I work at the front desk in the resident halls and (I know this sounds crazy) I check my boyfriend’s visitations records every time I go to work. I notice a girl name A******** has been in his room for the past three days. Should I confront him about this? If it turns out to be nothing I don’t want him to think I’m crazy for checking his visitation.
Dear Paranoid,
There are a few things that you could do in this situation. If you and your boyfriend live in the same residence hall, try dropping by around the time that you notice A is checked in. That way you can casually see for yourself what’s going on. If this is really bothering you then you can come right out and ask him. He may be slightly upset for the lack of trust, but as his girlfriend you have a right to know who this girl is in his room. Don’t automatically assume that he is cheating! It could be something innocent like homework help or studying. Right now it’s just your girlfriend-ly instincts kicking in. Just lay low for a while but if the pattern continues, look into it.