Not looking for anything serious? How do we find the right mix of enjoying sex and not getting romantically involved? Should you have multiple one night stands or a constant person to have a one night stand with?
Of course there are all those movies with the same plot about how friends with benefits never work, but that is not reality. There are some cases where it does, okay so two that I know of but that doesn’t mean you can’t make it work too.
Also the person you are hooking up with doesn’t even have to be a friend, this term has become, which I would here by like to destroy, ‘the booty call’. It is a sex call, why don’t we just call it what it is instead of degrading people. The only snag is that you have to meet this person first. I’m sorry that I don’t have an answer for that.
If you don’t have time or energy to find that hook-up partner perhaps one night stands are the way to go. It doesn’t hurt to have some fun now and then; as long as you both consent and follow a couple simple rules! (Apply these rules to friends with benefits as well)
1. No small talk, before or after, you both know what you’re doing
2. Do not let them talk you into anything that you will regret in the morning
3. DO NOT CUDDLE; cuddling is romantic and sends the wrong signal, unless that is the signal you are going for
4. Do not wait for them to wake up to say Good-bye if you have to go; did they buy you dinner? Then you don’t owe them a good-bye; leave a note if it will make you feel better. ‘Thanks for the sex!’
This is about satisfying your needs. Like I heard at a speaker series, ‘we eat, we breathe, we have sex,’ don’t make it complicated or awkward. Have an urge, go get it satisfied! But, be smart!