Yawn. You wake up in the morning. You are wide awake. Thoughts seem jumbled at first, and flashbacks from the night before are coming in like a wrecking ball. You take a second to glance around. Where are you? Many possibilities exist, but most likely you are in your own room or the room of that sexy lover you met at the party the night before. Now it is all coming to back to you as you reflect on your hookup from the night, and we’re sure you’re wondering how to navigate the post-hookup situation on campus. Let’s evaluate each scenario.
Hookup Scenario One: You are in your own room. You look to your roommate and immediately start laughing. The two of you recap the night from each of your perspectives. She tells you how your hookup looked from an outsider’s perspective, and girl you were killin’ it!
Post-Hookup: You check your phone and see if the hookup from the night before has or has not texted you. If he or she has, shoot back a friendly response if you had a good time last night. If you are not into the person, do not lead them on. Send back a casual response, but communicate the point that last night was a one-time occurrence. If he or she has not texted, decide if you want to step up and initiate a flirty convo over text, or wait it out and see if he or she reaches out within the next few hours or even days.
Hookup Scenario Two: You are lying in a foreign bed next to last night’s affair. You reach for your phone because a bunch of your friends sent aggressive texts throughout the night asking about how it was going with your lover. You look at your photos and see that you and the person next to you have some hilarious selfies on the dance floor. He/she rustles in their sleep and turns over; eye contact is made, and it is time to make some small talk. “Did you sleep ok?” “Last night was fun, eh?” “We should probably get dressed.” You scramble to get your things, kiss your suitor goodbye, and scurry out the door.
Post-Hookup: Congratulations, you just got through that first potentially awkward post-hookup interaction. The hardest part is over. Obviously since you slept over, this interaction was more intimate than a typical dfmo. That can make the aftermath of the hookup a bit more daunting. He/she could end up texting you within the next few days seeking another hookup or wanting to hang out. On the other hand, you might have to be the one to break the ice and start up a convo if you feel the need. If neither of you reach out to each other, do not freak out, as you will see each other around campus soon enough. Be mature when you have this run-in. Smile and wave to acknowledge the suitor’s presence. No one likes to feel ignored, so gather that courage and try not to be awkward during the encounter.
We have described a few scenarios about what might happen after a hookup during a night out. Over time, you will learn how to best deal in diverse situations. Everyone is so different with how they approach hookups and the hookup aftermath, so every situation will vary. Having confidence in yourself and how you choose to behave during and after the hookup will aid you throughout your romantic career in college.
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