Nowadays, being single seems to be looked as a disadvantage, especially when single’s most hated holiday, Valentine’s Day rolls around. But there are many benefits of being single, and why I personally enjoy being so. Now before I go on with this list, don’t get me wrong, being in a relationship can be very rewarding and a beautiful thing if it is done correctly, and if this is you — ALL POWER TO YOU. But sometimes I’m convinced that people in long term relationships can be miserable at some point or “points.” If you don’t believe what I’m saying, consider some of these 7 reasons why I’m single and proud and you can be too!
- Time to better yourself.
Think about it. When you’re single and not tied down to an exclusive relationship, you have time to think about your wants and needs. One essential thing is putting yourself first so when a relationship does develop, you know what you want. Not to make yourself sound vain or anything, but you are your best advocate when you think about yourself first. You can’t really expect anyone to do it for you. So take time out to define what your values and morals mean to you.
2. Do what you want, when you feel like it.
Just imagine — not having to “check in” with your significant other letting them know where you’re going, what you’re doing, and above all who you’re with, while also wondering if their approval is necessary for what you’re doing. Subtract all of that and what do you have? FREEDOM.
3. Save tons of time and energy.
Sending cute little text messages to your significant other is great and all, but how many times do you sometimes forget to text them before you go to bed at night or right when you wake up? Yep, I can see those virtual hands going up. It can be a hassle to make sure that you’re keeping up with your end of the communication aspect of the relationship. Of course, you can have that independent partner who doesn’t need you to check in every other millisecond, but finding those are easier said than done.
4. More time to spend with friends.
This may be one my favorite benefits, simply because friends will always be there, sometimes more than your bf/gf. But when you are constantly having to ditch your friends because your significant other wants quality time with you, you may not get invited to parties or other outings your friends are going to because they don’t want to waste their time having to here you say “Yeah, I’m there!” and what happens? You’re not there. Also, you don’t have to worry about your significant other getting jealous or mad because you’re spending too much time with your friends instead of him/her.
5. Flirt as you please!
This is an essential benefit considering, you’ll have more free time to explore and meet new interesting people without having to worry about them hampering on your exclusive relationship. Seek each day as a new opportunity to meet a potential partner.
6. Focus on your dreams and aspirations.
As this point ties into the first point I made, it is important to take this time out in your single life to focus on your career aspirations instead of trying to simply follow in your partner’s footsteps. To some this may seem surreal but trust me — I’ve seen and heard people wanting to follow wherever their partner goes while sacrificing their own dreams to make sure that they are secure in their partner’s future. This is not a pleasant thing at all. You may have heard the old cliché saying “If it’s meant to be, it’ll be,” well, that, my friend, might be cliché but it’s certainly true!
7. Save that money honey!
Yep, just as I said it! Now this is a huge benefit, but more likely towards single men. Imagine how much money you are spending on dining, flowers, chocolates, shoes, or whatever else you spend a bizarre amount of money on. Also for women, just think how you don’t have to set aside a particular amount of money for dates, presents, or monthly anniversaries (if you happen to do that), you can just enjoy the money for yourself, by still remembering to spend savvy and smart.
So these are a few of reasons why I’m single and proud! Just remember: you don’t need someone to complete a part of you. When it is time, you will meet that significant other and you’ll be ready by following a few of these pointers. Just wave your single flag proudly and focus on yourself for the time being. I promise it’s worth it! xo