People don’t want to hear the truth.
Have you ever noticed that?
Nobody wants to hear how we live in a broken world. Nobody wants to be reminded that we, as a society, came from the scraps of war.
Nobody wants to admit that although the Holocaust of World War II is over, we are currently living in the holocaust that is taking the millions of lives from unborn babies.
And we turn a blind eye from it.
People care about happiness and fun, which is great on its own terms, but it neglects the reflection of who we have become as a society, as a family, as an individual.
We have lost who we are.
And then we try to find self-help books about it. We lose ourselves in social media and in the drama of other people.
And we think that’s going to help.
It doesn’t. it just builds up inside. And a few weeks, months, maybe even days later, we hear about another gun shooting on the news. We hear about a major car accident on the highway due to drunk driving or a text.
And we get angry all over again.
So let’s talk about something nobody else will.
Let’s talk about grief.
Life seems to be composed of nothing but death and the lessons we take from it.
Why?
That’s always the question, right? Just, why?
Grief is when we mourn for someone (or something) taken away from you. It’s a constant process. They say time heals all wounds but, as the years go by the wound doesn’t hurt any less.
Grief itself is a healing process, but if nurtured wrong, it can hurt so much more than originally.
Anger can lead to a steady hatred. But if you build up your world on hatred, take it away and what would you have left?
Why does grieving hurt so much?
Why do we ignore it as a society?
We bury someone and leave their corpse to rot, whispering under our breath that we’ll remember them, but then we go on to enjoy our lives as if nothing has ever happened.
People believe hatred gives them power.
It gives them a cause for revenge.
Who doesn’t hate death?
Who doesn’t hate it when someone is lost to them forever?
Grievance can spiral into depression.
Like you’re drowning, or suffocating from the darkness that has engulfed you.
You reach your hand up for something – anything.
But nothing is there.
And instead, you just sink deeper and deeper: suffocating.
Grievance is who we are.
It’s a part of us.
But that doesn’t mean we have to let it define humanity.
We should let it mold us into something better. But we shouldn’t let ourselves be engulfed by it.
Grief is more than just an emotion.
It’s when your soul despairs.
And pieces of your heart breaks and scatters.
And it builds up emotions like anger and frustration, and it allows the individual to experience harsh regret.
How do we deal with this?
Where do I go with all of this rage, and emptiness – all of this grief?
Honestly, since the time from Adam and Eve, I don’t really think grief is something we can ever get rid of. I don’t think it’s something we should ever get rid of, either.
Grief is what lets us give value to humanity, it makes us realize how much we have to be grateful for and it lets the people around us become priceless.
Even Jesus wept when his friend Lazarus died.
There is no escape from grief.
But we don’t have to drown in it either.
So next time you find yourself drowning, don’t submit yourself to suffocation.
Because Jesus is walking on the water, and He’ll bend down to get you.
He will grieve with you.
And in Him, there’s comfort.
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