Being a man that is friends with a lot of women I have seen a lot of cringe-worthy moments when it comes to this topic and also have experienced some myself. It’s the typical story of guys sending mixed signals or not communicating and girls not picking up on “subtle” signs that he is not interested. From my personal experience, I tend to be blunt with both actions and words in order to try to avoid this situation. But that does not necessarily mean I have not been through my fair share of moments of “I’m just not that into you” conversations.
In order to avoid these conversations, I am going to give you the signs in chronological order that he is not interested. To do this I will tell a story; “a friend of mine” (it was me) made out with a girl while in an altered state (I was drunk). For the next few weeks, “he” received Snapchats asking for “him”(still me) to come over to cuddle. “He” sent back excuses at first. These excuses ranged from “sorry I have homework due tomorrow” to “I have to take a shower for the next three hours”. The first one was supposed to be a subtle hint because it was a Friday and no one has homework due on a Saturday that they are starting at 2 AM. The second was me getting tired of her consistently asking and deciding to be a P.O.S. Typically after receiving an excuse she would Snapchat me again and say something along the lines of “Wouldn’t you rather hang out with me”. First off, if you have to ask that the answer is no. Second, I would respond by changing the subject. This is your second sign. If they avoid any conversation regarding you or your feelings towards them they are not interested.
After this change of topic, I would typically stop responding. Figuring that this would be the simplest way to show a lack of interest in someone. WRONG. If I stopped responding it led to a message saying “I’m coming over”. This is your last sign. If he immediately responds telling you adamantly not to come over, he is not that into you. All in all, I guess what I am saying is that the signs are there and they are blatant. When asking yourself if someone is into you, look at the situation as an outsider and without bias and you will see his true feelings. Do not get caught up in emotions and ignore the signs.